lazyneet

I'm not a fan, but from a technical standpoint I think embedding a non-mainstream external site like redgifs is worse. Lemmy supports direct uploads of some file types (possibly webm?) and there are systems like PeerTube for larger video hosting.

A few months I was walking, possibly jaywalking, and someone shouted "BITCH!" out of their car window as they passed me. That was probably the only time I've ever passed for cis.

The only thing I do is makeup. It's a skill that takes time to learn, so it accomplishes consumption of time, gender affirmation, and self-improvement.

Aww thanks. Honestly I was just venting. I have a terrible habit of looking for problems in a relationship, and I dumped my bf because of perceived problems. I think anyone can make a relationship work, I'm just complaining about problems with sex.

Awesome! I've never reached orgasm with a dick inside me, as much as I'd like to. Was it your first time in a while? New partner? Just an especially satisfying experience? What's the secret?

It's always tricky to find a natural way to start a conversation. On the one hand, social finesse signals some degree of experience or respectability. On the other, I think it would be adorable if someone like your friend just stared at me and said "I want to fuck you". Either way could work.

The only videos fitting the description that I know of feature Alia Janine and are quite old by now.

I'm starting to wonder if tits alone can make guys cum...

To answer that question, I recommend dating someone with big tits. It can be hard for some people to cum with a partner in general, but you learn to enjoy the experience regardless.

Don't worry about it, I love hearing from you whenever you're in post-responding mode. Thanks for engaging. :)

Thank you for empathizing with my weird rp situation. There are a couple of elements to it for me:

1. The day I'm supposed to meet them, I boymode from the moment I get up so I can get used to it. It isn't bad since other trans people I see around recognize me and know what I'm doing. I end up looking like a very effeminate man dressed as a trucker, almost a butch lesbian vibe. That's the best I can do, and it's actually kind of gender-affirming that I fail at masculinity so hard. As long as I don't have to change my body for that gender presentation (beyond letting my arm and leg hair grow a bit) and as long as it's just two days out of the week at most, it's a worthy sacrifice for me. It does cause me a little stress to think about, like I'm slipping irreversibly into manhood, but when it's over I'm back to my old self.
2. The sex is a little odd since I can't top very well, and my partner certainly doesn't want to top. We've never had sex with our clothes on, but I put my hair in a bun and try to be as dominant as I can. Last time, all I did was give them a blowjob and finger them a bit. Hopefully we'll have more energy next time. I'm desperate for sex, so anything is better than nothing.

As for hormones, not cumming much is absolutely a side effect of full MTF hormone therapy, in my case E and spiro. There are still orgasms, but not significant ejaculations. If you did monotherapy or just E + finasteride or some other DHT blocker, it might be different. You might think of the latter cases as enby hormones, since there would probably still be significant levels of T, so your dick would probably work the same.

I don't need to top, but with this partner maybe I'm a passive top. 😂 I do it for them, and I get a little lethargic in that role, maybe due to trauma or something else. I hate bashing the people I'm with, and they really are a nice person, but I always prefer to be the little one. 🥺 It's weird when fem AMAB people try to help me live some unclaimed manhood or whatever. Where were you when I was 22? When I was 16? I was abstinent for 7 or 8 years because nobody wanted me to top in the aggressive, BDSM-informed way that I see as ideal. And there was that that one guy who wanted me to "rape" him. Like bro, I'm barely hard, and you've never bottomed before. I swear, the people I date are the most random and often ill-fitting partners imaginable, and I'm so socially awkward/desperate that I will accept them just because.

At least he's got the grindr skills. That's the part I'm trying to self-improve. When I was in high school people shut me down a lot, and rather than getting some encouragement in the nature of "you might be gay; just be yourself", people thought I was weird and had little to say to me. I internalized that to the point where everything I say is now couched in consideration of people maybe not being receptive or not liking me, and every ping I get on an app I consider in the context of potential harm or abandonment, rather than just hooking up with people like a normal person. I'm assuming there is a gay bar or something like that in your area. I'm sorry you find him offputting.

Hey man, speak for yourself. While I appreciate the emotional stability of not being single, my partner and I keep an open relationship for a reason. I live for sex. There are plenty of people who feel as I do into their 70s, and as long as your friend understands that he might have to set his standards aside and let a 300lb bear take over if he's really that horny, I'm sure he'll get some. Every little thing we do, even just sitting quietly and looking cute, is a mating strategy.

My strategy when I had less confidence was to just sit quietly in a corner and wait for someone to talk to me. That's how I met one of my former long-term partners, and it's also how I ended up in a lot of bar conversations with disappointing outcomes - "why are you in x town?" "why are you still in college?" "why don't you like older men?" etc. There's the cute kind of tism where you keep pokemon plushies and talk like a little girl, which seems to be the most common kind. Then there are the creepy variants, which are products of unpracticed overconfidence.

I think your friend should avoid bothering people in-person until he's been approached enough and had enough partners to not scare people off. Until then, he should be his cute little self, quiet and polite at the gay bar, and save the sexual aggression for apps where it's expected. You could also take him to kink events, which are good social practice for members of the community.

Everybody I've talked to says they like flavored lube. I've never tried it, but that's probably closer to what you're hoping for.