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Do you know what part is "too intimate"? Is it sleeping over in general, do you stay at his? Is it the awkwardness of your parents being around? Or, with intimate / all adults / private lives are you really talking about him not being comfortable having sex with his girlfriend in her parents house?

All of those are pretty normal, but can probably be resolved in different ways. E.g if he just likes his own space, maybe starting with a single night staying over makes more sense than a few days, and at the weekend so it's not disrupting his schedule or whatever he worries about.

If it's the sex one, I'd recommend a bit of empathy. Some people are really relaxed about sex and others are not. And as a guy, if I'm worrying about someone hearing us, how much noise the bed is making, etc it can be pretty hard to get in the mood and some guys can be worried about not being able 'to perform' especially when you're both young and only been dating a short time. And it's not as easily brushed aside as "don't worry about it, they don't care" once my mind is focused on what someone downstairs might be hearing and thinking, I'm not in the moment any more.

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I don't see flirting as very different from making friends. The two biggest differences would be speed and boundaries.

If I'm trying to make friends, I'd be mindful to not seem too keen and obvious, which is also generally good flirting advice, but sometimes you can be extremely obvious with flirting (the "nice boots, wanna fuck?" approach). I'm sure there are situations where saying "I want to be your friend!" is a good strategy but they're pretty damn rare (and probably involve been on mdma).

When you're building any relationship or connection, one of the necessary steps is breaching boundaries. By sharing personal information (whether it's hobbies, or a personal tragedy) or making jokes or teasing (if appropriate and appreciated) helps move a relationship from "stranger" to "friend", similarly eating together, inviting someone into your home, or physical contact all represent breaking down boundaries and closer and more personal relationships.

Different social groups have different ideas about appropriate behaviour at specific levels of relationship. I have social groups where being 'cheeky' and even outright mean to a new person is how they show they're one of the gang. Similarly, there groups of people who can be lifelong friends, but still wouldn't be comfortable hugging. For many people, flirting, especially if you're aiming for a sexual relationship, often involves more physical boundary testing than with platonic friends (letting your hands touch, flicking dust off their clothes - and just FYI, if you're not sure what you're doing, it's almost always better to let the other person be the first to initiate physical contact, especially if they're a woman). But saying that, some straight guys I've known are very physical with male friends both with hugs and friendly punches, so it's not a strict line.

I guess he is a relevant expert? And I think his tone suggests his judgement on the matter's bullshitosity.

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I could get a copy of the original "White Box" Dungeons & Dragons set, although not an actual first print run copy, because those go for $20k. But I'd probably buy the last few Planescape products I'm missing, which are also unreasonably expensive for rpg books but not in the same league as the original dnd sets, and much more enjoyable to read.

Same. I had guessed yellow's category, but so many possible options that sounded at least as plausible as the yellow answer.

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Life, uh, finds a way.

It's not something you need to get rid of, but if you really want to move past it the best way is to actually explore it psychologically. You say you like humiliation play because you love feeling like you're worthless. Makes sense, sure, but why? What is it about feeling worthless that feels good?

Is it genuine worry in real life that you can safely explore in a sexual fantasy? Do you feel sometimes inadequate but can't talk to friends openly about it, so having someone attractive criticise you but still not leave you relieves a fundamental rejection anxiety?

Is it that part of you is arrogant and looks down on some others as losers, but you don't consciously approve of that behaviour, so the kink lets you 'play the victim' and feel better about your elitism?

If you spend a bit of time actually confronting the deeper thoughts behind a kink, it can remove a bit of the forbidden tension, and leave it as something you can still enjoy if you want, or move beyond, or find a more acceptable form that still presses the same buttons. Or just find a girlfriend who's into it!

The original Pride flag was designed with eight colours, but quickly moved to six and seven stripes because of issues with sourcing dyes and mass production. As others have said, each colour did have a specific meaning like Sex, Life, Harmony, Art, Sunlight. These were aspects of the queer community, but they did not mean specific or narrow identities, and did not only describe 'gay' or 'lesbian' people.

In the words of Gilbert Baker (who designed the initial flag) “We needed something beautiful – something from us, and the rainbow is so perfect because it really fits our diversity in the sense of our race, our gender, all of those things.” Since then people have added specific colours and extra features to draw attention to identities that they felt were undervalued or overlooked, which is laudable goal, but not because the original did not include everyone.

You're throwing around a lot of strong negative claims about the discussion here, if you really want to make a case that the meaning of original flag did not include queer people who were black or whatever, please bring some sources. And just to note, personally I actually like the chevrons of the Progress flag, but that doesn't invalidate people claiming that the original flag included everyone.

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