No mention of Moonrise Kingdom!? I finally got around to watching Asteroid City recently and enjoyed it
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Oxytocin is a big one, but I'm struggling to remember the others. I remember that one cuz of a psych class where the professor brought it up as an event that mothers would associate as having some of the highest levels of it. Its considered the bonding hormone, so makes sense we'd bond with our babies so drastically to keep us motivated to care for them after they ripped our lower body apart lol
Woman here in my mid 30s. I went through a few rough relationships, and in the last longterm one shifted my mindset from "of course I'll have kids" to "I won't put my body through that"
Since leaving that relationship, being in and out of therapy, and meeting someone that made me feel love in a way I didn't think was possible, I've changed my mind back. I'd be fine with it if it never happened, but there's something incredibly romantic about it to me. Being in such a vulnerable state where I'd need help but be supported. Putting my body through that, then having a common goal in raising them as a team.
I want to preempt this by apologizing if you are a victim yourself, or at least say I don't speak for all victims. That said, threatening violence - unless as immediate defense - is not moral within my view. I've been raped and had loved ones violently murdered. I would not wish pain on those responsible. I want them to understand and grow as people. Maybe it will never happen, and I can accept that. I can't accept loosening my moral standards and sinking to their level.
Sequestering them from society is more preferable. Requiring therapy. Community service.
I've been in therapy off and on for years. One piece of advice a therapist gave me that I'll never forget is to never stop being an idealist.
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And they should refuse! It creates a dependency when what you deserve is to learn or validate that you are capable ๐