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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Your response to abuse and pain is to put more hurt in the world, and not even aimed at the person who caused the initial pain.

And that means you don't care that you're hurting trans folk. And that's transphobia. End of story.

I'll be blocking your account from this instance now, because whatever your reasoning, making the active choice to hurt people impacts the people around you. You don't get to spread the hurt just because of past hurt

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (10 children)

As I said, the issue here when you misgender a trans person who was abusive isn't the abusive trans person, it's every other trans person, because you've just told every trans person you know and every trans person that reads this that you don't think trans folks gender is real, that you're only humouring them as long as they're polite.

Spreading more hurt is not the right response to receiving hurt.

Well of you decide to torture someone for 10 years there will be consequence

Yep. But right now, you're arguing that all trans people should face consequences because some trans people can be abusive. Trans people are under attack around the world. We are having our rights stripped, we're being forced in to spaces with the folk most likely to abuse us, we're having our identities stripped away.

And your post here is empowering all of that. It's saying that it's ok to do those things, because a trans persons identity is a privilege, not a right.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I love them. Except when they sound like someone being murdered at 3am

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 1 month ago (15 children)

The problem here is that when you misgender the abuser, when you insist that they be treated like a man, you aren't hurting the abuser, you're hurting all trans people, who are also at incredibly high risks of sexual and physical abuse themselves. Moreso when they're forced in to spaces with cis men, who are the most likely group to assault or abuse women (trans and cis).

Which is to say, the victims hurt shouldn't be a reason to spread more hurt, and put more people at risk of abuse

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sometimes our crows sound like they're talking to each other. Not like that, but more like a half heard whisper?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago

Unless you want to talk about transphobia, racism, LGBTQ rights etc, etc, in which case, you live on the edge constantly wondering when YT is going to demonetize you

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Peertube and pixelfed have that built in to the individual instances. It is something I'd like to see more widespread

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Most platforms have their "join lemmy" or "join Mastodon" equivalents already

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 1 month ago (7 children)

Gateways that ease the pain of entrance to the fediverse are a good thing. A single, centralised gateway that defacto controls all access to the fediverse is exactly what I'm trying to get away from

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

From my perspective, that's not something I'd use, or at least, it wouldn't have been much use to me when I was a young closeted queer person in small town Australia. It wouln't have been much help finding my peers

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago

The hot water tap in my shower turned itself completely off one day.

The whole gender thing? And I say that as a trans person. It's real, but I can't explain it...

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 month ago

That feels off somehow, or at least, the unsolved problem part isn't as narrow as that makes it seem.

I can recognise a place, just like a face. I don't eliminate options, I just recognise it. I can recognise voices the same way.

I don't understand how faces are different in this context?

 

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For those of you who don't know, the Blahaj Zone admin team runs a matrix space for gender diverse folk. Similar to lemmy, it's designed with a few "official" channels, but is otherwise a community curated space, with channels run by our members. You don't have to be a blahaj zone user to join.

If you're already a matrix user, you can head straight to our application room https://matrix.to/#/#gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone, or by searching for #gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone from within your matrix client.

If you're new to matrix, you can find some more details and an instruction video on how to get up and running here https://chat.blahaj.zone/c/genderverse/

 

For those of you who don't know, the Blahaj Zone admin team runs a matrix space for gender diverse folk. Similar to lemmy, it's designed with a few "official" channels, but is otherwise a community curated space, with channels run by our members. You don't have to be a blahaj zone user to join.

If you're already a matrix user, you can head straight to our application room https://matrix.to/#/#gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone, or by searching for #gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone from within your matrix client.

If you're new to matrix, you can find some more details and an instruction video on how to get up and running here https://chat.blahaj.zone/c/genderverse/

 

For those of you who don't know, the Blahaj Zone admin team runs a matrix space for gender diverse folk. Similar to lemmy, it's designed with a few "official" channels, but is otherwise a community curated space, with channels run by our members. You don't have to be a blahaj zone user to join.

If you're already a matrix user, you can head straight to our application room https://matrix.to/#/#gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone, or by searching for #gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone from within your matrix client.

If you're new to matrix, you can find some more details and an instruction video on how to get up and running here https://chat.blahaj.zone/c/genderverse/

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15145486

A Silver Gull (Larus novaehollandiae) catches a chip from mid air at South Bank, Brisbane, Australia, August 2024

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Mine! (live.staticflickr.com)
 

A Silver Gull (Larus novaehollandiae) catches a chip from mid air at South Bank, Brisbane, Australia, August 2024

 

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Whilst this is not a local only post/community, it is primarily intended for blahaj lemmy members. Top level replies from non blahaj accounts will be removed.

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I want to take the moment to clarify the Blahaj Lemmy position on things, given recent events and the fallout that has followed. This will give people the chance to decide for themselves if blahaj zone lemmy is the right space for them, or if it doesn't meet their needs.

First and foremost, blahaj zone lemmy exists to give a space for queer folk to exist, with their needs explicitly protected as the highest priority, and with a particular focus on the needs of gender diverse folk. Most lemmy instances are not run by trans folk, and whilst many are still inclusive, they don't always prioritise our needs. Others barely consider trans folk, and react only to the most blatant of bigotry.

We are not a political instance, however political communities have a space here, as does any community that is actively protective of the needs of queer and gender diverse folk. Given the impact of politics on gender diverse folk, that means lots of dialogue and strong opinions exist, and as long as those opinions are honestly held, and not bigoted or exclusive, people are welcome to have and express those opinions here.

For what it's worth, I am a member of the Greens Party in Australia. I have no time for the middle ground politics of the Australian Labor party, let alone the right wing beliefs of the Australian Liberal party. Yet a community of queer Labor Party aligned folk would fit on blahaj lemmy, because the parties ideologies, are not explicitly anti queer. A community aligned with the Australian Liberal party likely would not have a place here, unless the goal of the community was to work at actively challenging the anti queer policies of the party.

That being said, political communities (or any other communities) that exist solely to target and take aim at other queer folk have no place here either. The goal of blahaj lemmy is queer inclusion, and a community whose sole goal is division, will be removed.

The downside to this is that as we assume good faith in members and we don't gatekeep or deny access to people because of their pronouns or gender identity, (even when those identities are challenging to many) it is possible for bad faith actors to take advantage of our inclusive policies. Unfortunately, that's just something we are going to have to navigate as it occurs, because I won't let bad faith folk push this instance to defaulting to exclusion or gatekeeping the validity of someone's identity. I will respect a trolls pronouns even as I ban them, because to not do so, normalises the idea that pronouns are something that are earned by good behaviour, or that other people have a say in the validity of another person's identity and pronouns.

So that's where we stand. Hopefully this will help people decide for themselves whether or not this is the right instance for them.

 

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