Nay

This is some wisdom right here. Thanks! 😊

Sadly this might be the case.

They say they want to improve, but I kinda feel like they aren't even self aware enough to know what they want.

Thanks for taking the time to reply with all that.

There is a lot of avoidance going on despite them vocally asserting that they want to get better and are willing to try new ideas. But when the rubber meets the road, there is nothing but excuses.

I've tried asking deeper questions that require introspection, just to hear "I don't know how to answer that."

It feels like a lost cause, but a big part of what got me out of my own pit is that I don't easily let things go. (Not bragging, it gets me in trouble a lot, too)

I'll definitely keep your advice in mind and let you know if it helps!

😝

To be honest... I'm not sure. I have considered it though.

Yeah, it extends to psychologists, too. This is something to consider. Thanks =)

It's not that kind of lack, it's more like... They are angry at how their life ended up, but can't see how or why they got there, as it relates to their own actions. It's all someone and something else's fault.

Not word soup at all! It makes a lot of sense.

I think the issue is that I'm trying to reach someone on a logical level because due to our history and their current situation, I'm unable to connect emotionally.

Literally the most important question. This is a great point, and I need to give it more weight in this situation.

The problem is that I usually get short, angry replies when I prompt a why question.

The problem is that this person almost seems to have an aversion to introspection.

I can feel that. When I couldn't get my estrogen refilled I started to feel crappy, and everything was much worse than it really was. I could see that making someone feel dysphoric.