LeninsBeard

Gotta stop those devious Can*cks from overruning us

I'm looking for a website to host a spreadsheet for book recommendations. Ideally something where I could add people as approved editors but is good for privacy (so no Google). Any good options out there?

I was looking into visiting Cuba in 2024 but there seems to be a lot of conflicting information. Does anybody have good resources on how best to visit without being put onto a watch list or whatever?

you don't eat at the table dummy

So @Lilith recently had a good shitpost on the emotional stunting men experience under the patriarchy.

Most days I would laugh and scroll on by, but today I really felt it and wanted to perhaps start a discussion. As a straight, cis male who has recently started seeing someone, I have noticed a lot of the emotions seemingly ingrained by the patriarchy popping back up in recent days. I have felt possessiveness, jealousy, and fears of inadequacy (am I really good enough, or MAN enough, to be with this person?)

It seems like the patriarchy effects all men differently. I personally found it much easier to get over the immediate instinct towards rage rather than sadness or other emotions, but the feelings stated above have stuck with me despite my best efforts.

Some things I have wondered about when pondering this topic:

• Can these deep seated feelings, whether they be rage or jealousy or anything else, ever go away entirely with effort? Is the best we can do to suppress them? If we do suppress them, is that not further playing into the patriarchal push to suppress emotions?  Is this a contradiction that can only be solved with the liquidation of the patriarchy?
• How can men, while still working through these emotions, still be the best possible allies to women and enby folks?
• In a similar vein, what can we do as men to hold other men accountable for these attitudes? Obviously we can call out blatant misogyny, but more deep seated attitudes can be harder to detect.

Some things I've found that have helped and continue to help me deal with these deep seated attitudes:

• Listen to women! This one is pretty obvious so I won't spend much time on it, but your female comrades will know better than you when you're doing harmful shit.
• Read feminist theory. I'm currently reading Revolting Prostitutes and it's helping me to get over some attitudes towards sex work that I now realize were fairly reactionary. Theory works, and it's always helpful to have a better understanding of the world
• Organize organize organize. Theory is useless without organization and vice versa. You will 1000% learn more about overcoming these attitudes through direct work with female comrades and within orgs working towards women's liberation than you will anywhere else.