Blazingtransfem98

joined 8 months ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

You do have a point, when I said it's necessary I meant from my situation where cis passing is extremely important due to risk of violence and my fear of violence, my dysphoria is a huge part but fear of being beaten for not passing is also very big. It's happened before my picrew doesn't have an eyepatch for style, I was attacked for being trans and it left me permanently blind in my left eye, and I wear an eyepatch to cover up my non-functional left eye. I know that the pressure to cis pass isn't healthy and that in an ideal world it would only be about alleviating my dysphoria. It really sucks that I have to be afraid to speak in public because someone could clock me and get violent. I don't mean to put people in difficult situations I was just scared and wanted to know in the moment if my voice sounded alright or if I was at risk of being clocked.

I know that VFS isn't a magic bullet and I do know that training is still worthwhile, it has had an effect, it just isn't enough on its own to make me sound not masculine. Which is why I've said I need it in order to be able to pass.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

knowing the person is enough to change your perception of their voice

Maybe but honestly that's not good enough, it's paramount that I pass without being clocked, sounding fem to people I know and who like me is nice but it's not enough. It won't prevent me from ending up dead in an alley because some Neonazi heard me talking and instantly clocked me.

I don't have the luxury of being openly trans and visibly queer, not without getting hurt, possibly killed.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Doesn't Lemmy have RSS feeds? They just could follow this community's feed in their Feed reader like all their other news, or use a Mastodon RSS bot if they so badly need it on Mastodon.

Maybe put the feed Link in the sidebar so people know they can follow it for updates here, the RSS button on Lemmy is so small many people won't notice it.

https://discuss.online/feeds/c/announcements.xml?sort=New

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Microblog platforms are going the way of the dodo anyway. Community centered platforms like Reddit and Lemmy are the future.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

At this point I'd take the risk, I can't stand my voice so much that even if there was a risk of it making me mute I'd take it even for even a slim chance to just sound like a normal cis girl.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Congrats girl, you look stunning.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Why couldn't you? Transfemmes are AMAB and some of us are lesbians. Whoever told you AMAB people can't call themselves sapphic is a dumb transphobic fuck and they can fuck themselves right off, they should not be listened to or taken seriously!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Hey there girl it's alright, things will be okay. It's natural not to like the idea at first but I'll give you some advice. You're trans whether you like it or not, things will go easier if you accept it sooner rather than later and start doing things to affirm your identity and make yourself comfortable, even little things.

I resisted for a very long time. I only transitioned on DIY hormones a few years ago, and before that there were many many signs but I ignored or resisted them like an idiot. I think I used to believe one could choose to be trans 🤦‍♀️. Obviously that didn't work and I'm trans, as much as it's brought me hardship and suffering. I am glad though that I did come out eventually and began the journey of transitioning, a lot of the stress, depression, and dysphoria has gotten better because of it. I hope someday I'll be able to fully transition (voice surgery and bottom surgery) but at this point I'm not there yet, and probably won't be for a while since surgeries are expensive.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

K have fun with your AI brain rot.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I think these people were already crazy if they're willing to let a machine shovel garbage into their mouths blindly. Fucking mindless zombies eating up whatever is big and trendy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Those bootlickers will believe anything, I bet you could convince them water was dangerous if you made them think the DEA said it.

 

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