From a science perspective only meds really work for “treatment” but if you’re looking to simply make some sense of the chaos and not actually treat your symptoms there’s lots of options. My mantra is simply “motivation isn’t required” when I need to do something, being a parent really forced me to face this head on because just opting out on your kids because “you don’t feel like it” isn’t an option to good parents and the more you push through the easier it gets, in my experience, for me it was more about building discomfort tolerance than anything
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ye, idk if i ever want children tho, i dont want anyone go tro what im doing, and children have 50% higher chance to have a neurologic disorder if the parents have it ;(
Make the best use of your medicated time to build routines for consistency, which in my case helped even after the meds wore off (eventually). Putting keys and wallet in the same space actually stuck after taking meds!
Other than that, do consider that the meds won't work all day so plan around them. Work and home upkeep while they are working is great, downtime for things like games or winding down after they wear off. It won't cause motivation to do things you want to do while it is working, but it sure helps with barriers!
This is spot on. Also accept that you will not be immediately successful at either devising new habits and behaviors, nor at executing them. Stick with it. The bonus of the meds is that you CAN actually think of, and build up, the good habits now; but it takes practice. Don’t beat yourself up if you backslide either. Just keep at it.
thank you! yee, my whole life been a mess, i just foguht i was weird, or a bit worse on social and school then others, but seems like add gave me depression, bad sleep, and hopeless
I was in the same boat, my friend. I know exactly how you feel. If it helps, I am now killing it at life after a year and a half on meds. I wasted the first 6 months smoking weed though, which for me negates almost all the good effects of the adderall.
haha, yee, lets see how my new life is, its been a joke up untill now :P
I’m rooting for you, brother
yee, if i get med and it works, proboly would only use it for school or work, thanks!
atleast gaming gets things out my head! but its kinda an addiction too, idk
In my experience it still improved things after the meds wore off because I spent less time kicking myself for screwing up earlier in the day! So it had positive impacts outside of work and school because I could enjoy the more relaxed stuff.
I do use games to help unwind in the evenings, but as long as I do it in moderation it is more like mental meditation/exercise which helps with sleeping and overall mental health. I play games from about 8-10 p.m. nowadays, because it is after family things have settled down and about an hour before bedtime.
ye, im on disablity for since this month, and will take a breather from life couple of months as psycologist recommended. getting around 2800dollar a month, (norway), i have no idea what to do with lfie currently haha
Can you get ADHD meds? These do not solve problems, but can make it easier to work around them.
yes! hopefully i can start fucosing on getting my uni now :O that would be so insane, i hate getting brain fog every time i read.
I know that feel.
Good luck to you.
Expecting passion from work or school seems like a high goal. It’s ok to not have that.
Anyway, my tips are therapy and meds. They work best together, and in some cases don’t work at all if you just have one.
thank you! ye been testing alot of test last couple of weeks, and will work togther with my psycologist in the future!
Medication, especially when you first start taking it, will usually have a very strong effect. It'll give you laser focus. The problem is that the focus will be on whatever you happen to be "aimed" at at the time. The trick to using that effectively is to make sure you are aimed at what you actually want to focus on, so you don't end up cleaning your entire house instead of your expected work.
I spent far too long trying to sort out what the acronym "fucos" stood for... 🤦🏼♂️
Also, totally not a dig on your spelling! I was entirely making fun of my immediate-task-is-ALL brain. 🙇🏼♂️
Copious amounts of caffeine and nicotine tend to do the trick for me lmao
hhaha, ye heard it works for people, caffein i get alot tro pepsi max xD, 1,4l per day :P