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[–] weastie@lemmy.world 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

You're right that this might look like BPD, but that's also a huge conclusion to draw from only a couple sentences. It's extremely rare to diagnose BPD before age 18 because it has too much overlap with just... the nature of moody teens and puberty.

OP, it might be useful to research BPD but moreso than anything, just give her time and make sure she knows you're there if she needs you. Give her reassurance and try asking her about why she thinks people hate her, and maybe try working through it with her (try bringing logic into it, but try to get her to come up with the logic rather than telling her directly).

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago

It's the top comment

 

Hi /c/guitars,

I'm a bassist (there's not really a good community for bassists on Lemmy yet), and something I've been wanting to do for a while now is do an acoustic-y jam at a public park with friends.

The problem is, most cities draw the line at amplification. It's a bit annoying because an unamplified drum set can be crazy loud and that's okay, but a slightly amplified bass will get you in trouble.

The way I think of it, I have 3 options

(1) Unamplified acoustic bass. The problem is, these are just not that loud.
(2) Secretly amplified acoustic bass? Hear me out. I was thinking if I got a small battery powered amp, and hid it in a backpack, and only had it slightly on, it might not get noticed. I would only need a slight boost.
(3) Get a really cheap double bass? I've always wanted a double bass, but those things are crazy expensive. There are technically ones for like $1k or under, but everyone says to stay away because they are pieces of crap. Maybe that's what I'm looking for though? I don't think I'd want to bring a nice $6000 upright bass to a public park...

Anyway, just curious what thoughts anyone has, especially anyone who has done this before in a big city.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Well, there is partial truth to this. Diagnosing especially preteens with mental health conditions almost always needs an asterisk, their brains are still heavily developing.

Remember that we know of no reliable genetic / physiological markers for ADHD, so when doctors diagnose it, they're really just saying that the amount of symptoms seems to be severe enough. Some kids are just naturally more energetic, intelligent, etc. and may appear like they have ADHD, but when they develop into adults that might not actually be the case.

If anything, it's more like 1/3 of kids were misdiagnosed as having ADHD, so they "grew" out of it because they didn't really have it. It's a lot less likely for an adult to be misdiagnosed because their brains aren't changing.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 57 points 1 month ago (2 children)

It's genius, now she can't give away her emotions through her eyes

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm reading Warbreaker right now because someone said I should read it before Stormlight Archive, but I'm very excited to start that series soon.

I've heard great things about Wheel of Time, although one of my friends said it can be a bit harder to get into.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I can totally imagine that book being really boring to some people. I almost didn't include the actual book series in this post but I thought people would be curious.

I think for people who are big readers, reading books that they only kinda enjoy isn't a big deal for them. They might even just appreciate that it's different.

But for folks who don't read much and are trying to get into it, chugging through a book they only partially like might ruin their entire vision of what reading should be.

 

Hi all,

I have the pretty classic backstory of playing lots of video games when I was young, plus being forced to read books I didn't want to read in school making me dislike reading.

Until about 2 years ago, I hadn't read a book for pleasure in quite a few years, probably before high school. And even before then, I didn't read that much.

I'm making this post because... when I first got back into reading (2 years ago), I don't think I really understood how fun reading could be. I viewed it as a healthy hobby (which it is of course), and don't get me wrong I did enjoy reading, but it always felt a bit like something I was doing for health reasons instead of really enjoying it. Sorta like a chore that I was forcing myself to do.

If you're in my position... Just keep trying different authors, different genres, different series. I think I accepted reading as being only a slightly enjoyable thing because that's just what I thought it was.

6 months ago I finally read a book series my brother had been recommending for a while, and it completely changed my relationship with reading. I enjoyed this so much more than I thought I could. I didn't have to convince myself to read anymore, it was the main thing I wanted to do. I think in one day I read about 250 pages. I was almost too obsessed with it, I nearly cancelled plans with friends because I wanted to read haha.

I'm not trying to advertise this specific book series or anything, but if you're curious it's Mistborn by Brandon Sanderson.

TL;DR - if you're newer to reading and feel like it's a chore, don't give up hope, keep trying new authors or genres and you might find something you really enjoy. there's almost certainly something out there that's made just for you, and you might have to sift through a couple "okay" books until you find it.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Try to frame it like it's exciting, not a failure. It's fun that you have so many more books you want to read!

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's super reliable. You can always play a high card. Sometimes you can't play a pair.

It's really good with Blackboard because you can just select all the red cards and get it.

You can get really low hand size, things like stuntman.

If most of your score is coming jokers, then the hand type you play doesn't matter so much.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Haha, you're right. I guess I should have written "then try to do thing A".

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 37 points 1 month ago

If you feel like you're struggling to accomplish a task, take a moment to think about your stimulation level. Are you understimulated or overstimulated? Sometimes just acknowledging it is enough, everyone has their own techniques.

For example, if I'm trying to work and I'm understimulated, I might throw on some metal music or something like that. If I'm overstimulated, probably means I should sit in a dark room for 5 or 10 minutes until I feel better before trying to do anything.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 50 points 1 month ago (5 children)

If you're trying to do thing A but your brain can't stop thinking about thing B, take out a notebook and write down all your current thoughts on thing B. Trust yourself that when you get back to it, you will be right where you left off. Then do thing A.

For example, trying to work on a paper but you can't stop thinking about the season finale of your favorite show you just watched.

Doesn't always work but helps a lot.

[–] weastie@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago (4 children)
 

Just pick two of your absolute favorite bands that are quite different

 

I am the only one in my friend group who actually likes taking SEPTA, and it's really hard to explain why.

Objectively, I've had bad experiences on SEPTA. Every now and then, a train car smells awful. There's druggies everywhere. Some mentally ill folk will start yelling, etc. Train stations smell like piss and cigarette smoke. Objectively, I understand why a lot of people are scared of, hesitant of, or dislike SEPTA.

But for some reason... I just enjoy it. I'm fascinated by it. It brings people from all walks of life together. It gives you a sense of reality and community. It's got personality... It's got Philadelphia personality. It summarizes the city, in a way.

I grew up in a wealthier suburb where I very rarely encountered homelessness, severe mental illness, etc. I was sheltered. Being in Philadelphia and especially being on SEPTA, feels so much more authentic. Like I'm experiencing real life.

I'm sure it helps that I'm male too.

Does anyone else feel the same?

 

I know this is a really vague question, I'm hoping for some open discussion

For some background, I currently have 2.5 years of professional work experience, and I work for a large defense contractor doing devops.

My approach to ethicality so far was basically, I need to start somewhere before I can be picky. I got hired at a large defense contractor out of college, and now that I've hit the 2 year mark for work experience, I have some flexibility in my next job when I decide to do that.

If money wasn't a problem, I'd love to use my degree to do good for the world, or at least work for an industry I don't think is evil. And truthfully, even the lower end of CS jobs still pay better than the higher end of many other degrees.

But right now I'm looking at job offers, and it seems like if I move to a tech, medical, or financial company, I could likely see a salary increase of 30-50%, which would be huge for me as I'm young and have debts to pay off (though much less than others, I'm pretty privileged).

At the same time, if I took a tech job working for my city, I found a position that I am perfectly qualified for but it's a 10% cut from my current salary which I already believe to be a bit too low.

Just curious to see how everyone else has made these decisions. It's very tempting to follow the money and take the highest paying job, but I'd love to work somewhere I'm genuinely proud of.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by weastie@lemmy.world to c/vegan@lemmy.world
 

Pre-note: When I mention "imitation products", I mean a food item that is trying to exactly replicate a non vegan item. Something like a black bean burger is not an imitation production, it's just an alternative.

I was bored so I started creating a tier list of vegan products and how closely they imitate non vegan products. I was trying to keep the list genericized with less emphasis on specific brands, but for some items the brand was really important.

What would you move around? What would you add? I only have a few items so far. I'll update the list as comments come in.


S tier - practically indistinguishable

  • Beef burgers (impossible, beyond)
  • Breakfast sausages (impossible, beyond)
  • Chicken nuggets/patties
  • Mayo

A tier - you can tell it's different but it's just as good

  • Queso dip (cashew based)
  • Ground beef (impossible, beyond)
  • Egg (just egg)
  • Butter
  • Milk
  • Ice cream

B tier - you can tell it's different and it's a slight downgrade

  • Deli cheese slices (some brands are C or F)

C tier - you can tell it's different and it's okay but a significant downgrade

  • Cream cheese (most brands)
  • Pizza

F tier - you can tell it's different and it's not good

  • Beef jerky
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