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Saxophone. But not always because it's smooth. Because sometimes it ROCKS...

https://youtu.be/7QFNAtnUDJ8

...Or because it's crazier than anything you've ever heard!

https://youtu.be/BARAHLk-8dk

Not really, we tend to have a "main street" where all the popular businesses are lined up, but otherwise a lot of towns are pretty car-centric.

Thanks, I try. ;)

No! You're not allowed to have fun with AI!! AI bad!! sprays you with spray bottle /s

Personally I find AI use in silly, unserious scenarios like this perfectly fine. While I think that it's a shame that there will be less of a culture of "spending a ton of time and effort just to create a silly meme in Paint for Internet Points™", I think the point of memes is for people to express themselves informally in good fun, and how they choose to do that is up to them.

What I don't like is when people try to use it to generate an entire art piece and then sell it at the Louvre as something they made from scratch, especially when they generate it to look like another artist's work. That's not "in good fun"; that's fraud and theft at the same time.

I don't hate the tool, I hate the people who misuse it.

Big words coming from the most hideous and deformed rabbits I've ever seen.

Lol I'm NGL half of what made me never feel compelled to contribute on reddit and just be a lurker was how some people seemed to not have "conversations" but rather just talk over each other. It wasn't always true, but it felt like many people weren't actually trying to understand what the other people was saying.

I don't thrive in those environments, I much prefer the deliberate conversations that happen in smaller communities.

So yes, long live Lemmy!

it's the perspective of a NORP

Huh, do ADHD people count as NORPs? Or is that more of a mindset thing?

My naivete aside, it's true that the way I phrased my statement ignores people with ADHD who can experience hyper focus on an activity they're interested in, or people experiencing mania. I've certainly experienced the former, but like you said, it's not a solution but more of a trade-off with its own set of problems.

I guess I should have phrased it more like "even if you have limitless willpower, it doesn't break physics": even if you aren't neurotypical and can sustain willpower for unusual amounts of time, no matter how much motivation you have there is a limited learning capacity you have and a finite amount of time in a day, and you have to pick what you spend them on.

It's a bit tricky to convey that nuance succinctly, so thanks for pointing that out stranger. :)

I've read that humans can only sustain maximum focus about an hour. I used to think "I can focus for longer than that!", but I think a more correct interpretation is that "after more than an hour, you start to see diminishing returns on your effort."

Upon more careful reflection, that sounds about right. I do engineering work that involves deep focus and complex mental manipulation, and I can say that you really can't do that for more than 1-2 hours at a time without a break. Try to force it longer than that, and you won't be able to go back for a second round of that in the same day.

The reason why students seem to be able to do it is because of the staggered classes and the variation in complexity for their course load and, you guessed it, taking short breaks in their sessions. Common advice for engineering students is to pair their engineering courses with lower-stress liberal arts courses or courses that use different parts of the brain in a given semester so they don't burn out, and to rest between classes and study sessions.

And lastly, as an ADHD adult, I'll offer this insight on the nature of motivation: everyone's threshold for how much motivation they need to perform a task with sustained focus is different. Sometimes, you just don't have it in you, because you've used the energy on other things. Willpower is not some magical force that you can limitlessly tap into to achieve the impossible; it is very much a finite resource. So if you're struggling to bring yourself to do more towards a specific goal, consider where you can shave off some energy elsewhere. Or, perhaps after thinking about it, you realize you are already putting in exactly the amount of energy you are willing to. In that case, there's no need to feel guilty, because you're already doing what you can and want to.

When I truly internalized that I don't have to prove my worth to anyone, even if I don't always know what I'm doing.

Looking back, that sense of self-worth and confidence is what I probably saw in all of the adults around me that made them seem so incredible as a child.

So when I felt that, I thought "huh, so this is what being an adult feels like."

Boxer briefs. The longer, form-fittint leg sleeves seem to prevent inner thigh irritation the best for me.

In the past I would have said boxer shorts because they tend to not catch on leg hair as much since they're loose, but the loose fabric seems to cause more irritation from friction, weirdly.

Quite a few:

• Suddenly I didn't need to rely on last minute panic to get boring stuff done: I could just think "this needs to get done"...and do it. I could clear my whole chore list without taking a break every 10 minutes to hype myself up, then go play games for the rest of the day
• I could write a to-do list and actually remember where I put it, and I could even manage to read it!
• My reading speed tripled since I wouldn't keep losing my place every 15 seconds.
• I wouldn't fall asleep just from sitting still for too long.

Corny as it sounds, after taking a long hiatus from treatment and then starting up again, I felt like I turned into Superman.

Ah yes, I remember the equivalent moment for me: I was 8, and Mom asked me if I felt different after taking the pills. I told her "I don't think so?" And then 3 months went by and I noticed I wasn't getting yelled at by my teacher for not paying attention anymore, and I wasn't getting in trouble at home for "ignoring" my parents (it took them a while to realize I was genuinely forgetting things they asked me to do 5 seconds ago).

Looking back, it's wild that it took me so long to notice such a big difference. But I think that's a real testament to how helpful those treatments are: when leveraged correctly, basic behaviors that you would normally struggle with just "click" naturally.