remotelove

... As an addendum to a comment I made somewhere else on this:

Abso-fucking-loutely do not show her this post to prove a point! You won't be able to explain the context no matter how hard you try.

But, if you are looking to end the relationship with a quickness by all means, YOLO this shit. Get some video if you can anonymize it somehow.

We are just rando internet idiots. Don't be taking advice from us, if that was the intention. We are just here for the validation of your bias and some magic internet points.

Lulz @ Texas.

Attempt to talk about this like you are normal humans. If she listens to you and cares about your feelings, talking about problems matters.

If that doesn't work and you still really like the girl, refuse to take her out to a real restaurant again. Costco hotdogs only after that, period. She can customize the fuck out of as much ketchup and mustard as she wants.

Going out to a really good restaurant should be as much of an atmosphere experience as it is an experience with the food. A bad atmosphere will ruin the food for me and the atmosphere includes the people I am with.

Part of a healthy dining experience is being aware of the people I am with and making sure I am not fucking with their experience. It's a mutual effort.

When I am able, I will pay through the teeth for a perfect dining experience and it's super rare and super valuable to me. Day to day? A pickle wrapped in a slice of ham could work fine for a quick meal. Whatever. Even if your budget is less than $100, there is no reason that shouldn't be an emotional experience as well. (Everything is relative, is my point.)

That's a big dude. 4-5 car lengths maybe.

It's all about delivery of the message and "reading the room".

In my own neurodivergent experiences, those two "tricks" I mentioned above are damn near impossible.

In all cases that I have had issues with helping someone, I usually failed at asking myself the following:

1. Did the person ask for assistance, or, did I ask if they needed assistance?
2. Did I pre-judge that person's intelligence level (or lack of intelligence..)?
3. Was the person already frustrated and I failed to notice?
4. Could I potentially make the overall situation worse if I interject?
5. Am I actually walking down the street of a large city where interacting with random strangers might not be healthy? (/s)

Over my years of failing at interaction, I have built mental flow chart of how to interact with others. It doesn't always work and that is OK!

TBH, I kind of loosely define this is an internalized derivative of "masking", but not unhealthy. I have my own little checklists that I can think about and tweak. Failure is always an option and an opportunity to learn how to interact with others better next time.

Effort vs Reward vs Ability vs Inital investment

In most cases, think of this kind of thing like a legitimate business. Same concepts. I'll grade a few scenarios based on what I have seen over the last 20 or so years. (The ratings are arbitrary and just trying to explain my point.)

Do you have the means to rent a botnet and phish a few million people for lots of credit card numbers? Can you manage that kind of data, test all those numbers and maybe end up just selling that data? Low Risk/Moderate Reward ("Selling shovels" analogy is probably a better scheme than actually renting the botnet, IMHO)

Could you setup a "call center" in India and run a scam ring like an 8-5 business? Are there enough people you can hire to do this work? That requires training, infrastructure and time. You also may need to "work with" law enforcement to ensure your scam isn't busted by legitimate cops. Moderate Risk/Moderate Reward.

Are you part of a small group with an insane amount of skill that has the time to pull off an extortion scheme against a Fortune 500 company for a few million bucks? High risk/High reward

Those are all normal scenarios above and it's based on profitability and initial investment. Risk/Reward is always a balance.

(Sorry. I pulled a "wHellll aKshUallY" when you said it's not worth the time for the small targets.)

There seems to hundreds of studies on that and there seems to be a fairly uniform "Yes" and "More than you would guess", etc.

Here is one: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.3233/ADR-220062

Google just started doing that years ago, even before the majority of people knew what AI was.

I could easily be wrong, but I believe it was even on photos that somehow weren't in the cloud yet. (That doesn't sound right to me, but I have a memory point about it, so here it is.)

As AI became more mainstream, even before the current bubble, they started to restrict it to make it seem less scary. (They stopped doing complete galleries of pictures grouped by items and just made everything searchable, which seems benign. In reality, it's much worse.)

All the enhance. I just kept adjusting all the things until it made the little bugger pop out a bit more.

Obviously the colors are broken, but this is probably closer to the real life contrast you would see.

It's all about presentation, my friend. If we are going to make our millions off of this product before it starts to roll off of people's TikTok feeds, we need to move quick.

If we repackage PVA into a sales point for preschool nostalgia, we got it made.

That was layer 2 of my sarcastic outburst: Be sure to thank your politicians for granting something that should be enabled by default.

(Yes, I know. In all seriousness, there are legal definitions that need to be established for a number of reasons. Child custody, taxation and religious laws being the first things that come to mind depending on the country.)

Polyvinyl acetate would probably give a better texture and has been kid approved for decades.

Still, I am super curious to see if actual gelatin would work, so thanks for computing the ratios for a (theoretically) stable product.