lilypad

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Gender is fake but also im a woman but also im not a woman i just do woman but also theres no such thing as woman but also but also but also

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 27 points 1 week ago

It was one of the tactics used. Buy land -> learn to work land from locals -> evict locals.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Preface: im not terribly smart on all this.

Short version: patriarchy serves as a vector for reproducing social structures and preparing children for their futures so that they fill their roles within society. It is itself a system of a hierarchy of personhood (and violence), but it exists alongside capitalism and not because of/in service to it. Primary function as far as i can tell of patriarchy is to ensure births (under capitalism this is beneficial in many ways (e.g. replenish the reserve body of labour)). Patriarchy serves to make women property and ensure control over reproductive labor.

::: spoiler longer rambly version (but still simplified)

So, im not super well read, but the way i view it is that patriarchy (or rather, the western gender system which has patriarchy as a characteristic (dw ill get into it below)) exists alongside capitalism. It existed before capitalism and had synergy with prior economic structures and systems as well as capitalism. So, patriarchal control (really, a hierarchy og personhood backed up by violence all along gender lines) developed alongside the development of capitalism, and doesnt really serve capitalism in a hierarchical sense, but is synergystic with capitalism (and vice versa). Any economic system that requires laborers, but especially capitalism which requires a reserve body of labour, benefits from a system that ensures births, which patriarchy does quite well by subjugating people who can give birth and forcing them into that labor (e.g. prime example is the nuclear family).

As an aside, our gender system is binary and patriarchal, meaning it defines 3 classes (men (i.e. cishet men), women (i.e. cishet women), and the delinquent class (anyone who doesnt have the same relations to reproductive labour as the other two classes (so, gay men, lesbians, trans people, bisexual people, etc.))). Additionally it defines a hierarchy of personhood and violence, with men on the top. (Also this is super simplified version it plays out in much more complicated ways than this).

Considering and using the terms defined in the previous paragraph, within the context of the nuclear family patriarchy+capitalism establishes a social contract whereby the man works, is exploited, and brings home a wage to support his family. The woman works in the home, being maid, therapist, punchingbag (physical or emotional), and most importantly to this system childbearer and rearer.

Patriarchy also serves as a really important vector for reproducing social structures. It trains children in their future roles. Young boys learn that they are future masters but also future wage slaves, and young girls learn that they are future homemakers (to put it nicely...). This helps capitalism by training the young boy to accept oppression in exchange for getting to be the master of his house/have dominion over women (unless they are owned by another man (yes property relations are in play)), and trains the young girl to accept oppression in exchange for some financial security through marriage (remember that women until recently couldnt work, couldnt have a bank account or get a loan, etc.)

Theres way more that could be said, and many people smarter and more educated than me who could say it.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Nothing like contributing to a project for years and knowing your deadname is in so many commits... Cant force push to the project to remove your deadname, but dont want to keep contributing under your deadname, but its also sus if some brand new person suddenly shows up with intimate knowledge of parts of the codebase that youre the only knowledgable person on... Theres no good way forward lol doggirl-sweat

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My tolerance went way down when i started E, but that was a couple years ago lol so i dont think its whats going on. I think i just havent had alcohol in a while and am no longer used to it

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 10 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

I had two drinks over the course of several hours, how am i somehow drunkish? Like, im not drunk drunk, but im more than tipsy??? Granted, i havent had alcohol in weeks, but still two drinks (not even super heavy pours either, like an extra 20% cause the bartender likes meeee) shouldnt hit me like this???? New calibration point for alcohol ig?

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 2 weeks ago

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! That is all.

Addendum:

screm-aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Something something tragedy farce

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

Im glad youre safe meow-hug serotonin syndrome is scary and im glad you avoided it!

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Doing well. But also terrible. Quit smoking a month ago and havent fallen off yet. Havent had any pot or alcohol in weeks either.

Unfortunately (cw despair)i find myself consumed by the desire to do something, anything, to help others or hinder the various horrible projects around me, but am paralyzed by my own mental illness and lack of a clear path forward or ability to take action in general.

Thank you for being an inspiring force in the world and taking care of people around you

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Im sorry things are so rough and society is so fucked cuddle its hard and intense but youve got this and i have faith in you to find ways forward. Im so glad corgiwithalaptop has been able to offer a place to stay!

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