jwsmrz

i decided to transition into this career path as it was a way to materially impact the lives of fellow trans people and erase boundaries that they face. It sounds dramatic, but I think of myself as less of an aesthetician and more of someone who helps improve mental health and makes you harder to discriminate against in daily life.

I am not one to impose traditional norms of femininity on anyone, but the world we live in is how it is.

I operate with a severe sliding scale payment model, which slides upwards to the extent that wealthier clients are able to pay it forward to fund free sessions for folks with less means, and downwards to the extent that it costs me money to work on someone (that is okay and everyone deserves this kind of service if they want it)

In addition to my own little practice I'm also working at another clinic which is also trans focused, and does a lot of work for folks who are prepping for lower surgeries as well as general gender affirming hair removal. This also means I work with a lot of trans dudes who are prepping for their lower surgeries, so it's not only trans fem folks

Ask me anything about hair removal

edit: Have a question in the future and this post is really old? Feel free to reply or DM me - I've been posting here for years and it's unlikely to stop until i'm a corpse

Trans people deserve love, you in particular.

Sorry to make an entire post for this, it's just I want to yell about it from the rooftops and all I have is a website for posting hexagonal bears

Seriously, this shit doesnt happen to any of my other trans fem friends who generally present a lot more fem than me.

In the last 3 months I've had 3 instances of me minding my own business (riding transit / smoking outside a concert venue) and some fucker will just come up and start shit.

The other night someone came up to me and started yelling like a Fox News reporter like "ARE YOU A MAN OR A WOMAN, ARE YOU A MAN OR A WOMAN, DONT YOU PEOPLE GO IN SCHOOLS AND [REDACTED HORRIBLE THINGS TO KIDS]

I don't fucking get it, because I generally present pretty "butch" and at a base level don't really look like someone you'd want to fight. I'm not saying I'm a big tough badass, but out of all my trans friends I definitely look like the most likely to whoop your ass. And also when I've been swung on, I've won all the fights, but not in a cool way where I feel good...I just wish I was never in that situation to begin with

Another thing that fucks me up is it's great that I can defend myself - but if it wasn't me, and it was someone smaller or more passive, how far would it have gone? Would one of my sisters have been curbstomped? I fucking hate that so much.

A few theories posited by my friends

1. Beating up someone in a dress / dressed fem isnt really badass no matter what so it happens less (but obviously still happens). So maybe presenting more butch makes you more "fightable"?

2. I simply go out more; I take transit 3-4x a day, I travel up and down my city every day, on weekends I'll generally have a big night out at least once

3. I'm androgynous in a weird way where people don't really understand what I'm going for (most of my trans friends are very binary presenting) and it's threatening / confusing / provokes harassment

I honestly don't fucking get it. I'm sure there isn't a magic answer. Just venting I guess.

tl;dr im hot and strong, people dont like it