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Obviously, people are allowed to be preoccuppied with serious personal problems and it’s not fair to blow something like this out of proportion but at the same time,

Like, do you really expect some kind of report card on how good a boy/girl you were for holding open a door for some rando who might, for all you know, have a family member in the hospital, or be struggling to afford their bills, etc etc. If so, that lowkey makes you the Nice Guy asshole, expecting extra emotional labor from that person who really didn't ask for or even want that interaction with you.

Nah, I’m not getting into this nice guy debate about emotional labor, way too much abstraction over unproblematic common courtesy. I never said I was some paragon of virtue, I’m just a regular dude practicing social norms I’ve been taught and maybe trying to make both our days just a little bit better.

Why does it bother you so much to validate people who are being nice to you, and why does it bother you they’re disappointed when you don’t?

I guess it’s some sort of moral hurdle someone needs to pass when they do nice things for you and you don’t acknowledge them.

Ok fine let's take it as close the door in front of their face

If not acknowledging someone holding the door for you is not a big deal why should closing the door be?

If you understand my frustration then you can also understand that people do things just to be nice but are well within their right to feel disappointed by people who won’t acknowledge their gesture, who almost seem to think such a gesture is meaningless or furthermore entitled to it.

I’ll keep doing nice things, and I’ll keep seething when people are rude in turn when I’m doing nice things, don’t put the moral failure on me.

No doubt you’re a redditor. Let me guess, you’re probably one of those people who just wished to ‘be left alone’ by everyone when they’re just being polite to you and exercising the basic norms of the social contract? .

I take it you don’t acknowledge people doing polite things for you because you don’t owe them anything? Do you not appreciate when someone’s polite to you?

I think this is a poor way to frame things.

Grunt of acknowledgement?

That’s good enough.

Or a handjob, at the very least.

Then he was legitimately really traumatized by almost getting his head blown off.

Yeah, this must be.

I genuinely thought he would turn up the fash to 11 and just start dropping n bombs and directly referencing concentration camps.

Call me selfabsorbed but I genuinely hate when i don’t even get an acknowledgement from people I hold the door for. I don’t want you to smile or say thank you or look me in the eyes but jist make some sort of indication that you know this door didn’t fucking magically pry itself open you twat.

It happens almost half the time, and I literally hold the door for everyone and can’t help not doing it. Every time I wish i could go back in time and slam it in their face, I’m not your personal bellboy

I know this is sn overreaction sorry

The best time to suck my cock is literally every day of my life, the second best time was in the womb