dandelion

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

for real, I see a woman in every photo, what a dream ๐Ÿ˜Š

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 hours ago

amazing, but this feels like one of those "woman to woman" transitions XD

How do you feel over time, and any advice or words of wisdom to share wth baby trans girls?

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

I get all of that, I'm not here to judge, I was just kinda authentically curious.

Let me know if you have any questions, I have plenty of personal experience as well as facts I'm willing to talk about, this is obviously an important topic to me.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

and transitioning at 14 might on average result in a person integrating into cis-normative society more easily than transitioning after puberty in their 20s, this means less dysphoria, less job discrimination, less chance of being a hate crime statistic, etc. - we need to make it much easier for trans kids to get the help they need so they live healthier and happier lives.

We just don't have any evidence or reason to think trans kids are very likely to be wrong about transitioning, and we meanwhile have a mountain of evidence telling us treatment is very effective and has unusually low regret rates ... this is just so obvious from a medical and scientific viewpoint, the only hangup seems to be cultural lag.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

and you better have gametes to prove you can pee there

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

That would be like someone saying that people receiving treatment for HIV are still more immuno compromised than the general population.....well yeah, but treatment vastly improves their total outcomes.

this illustrates it so well, well done

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (3 children)

I'm happy to discuss, but I'm curious why you are more interested in discussion than a literature review that summarizes the empirical evidence that answers your questions- is it just not as accessible? You might try reading the Gender Dysphoria Bible, it's more accessible to lay audiences.

Also, whether kids should be allowed to make those decisions tends to only come up when those decisions are for trans children, nobody is wringing their hands about whether cis children are allowed the exact same consequential gender affirming care, such as puberty blockers for precocious puberty or nose jobs or boob jobs for minors. Trans children don't even typically have access to the gender affirming surgeries cis children do, so the only relevant debate is whether puberty blockers are acceptable- which isn't a debate we have for cis children mind you, for some reason we're only worried when the kid has gender dysphoria (a condition we know is genetic and which has effective treatment through gender affirming care, the science isn't controversial).

And to answer your question, the evidence we have points to regret rates being low (like, exceptionally low, lower than most medical treatments).

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

ah, maybe I should clarify when I said looting wouldn't have majority support, I was assuming a context where a populist movement (i.e. made up of the majority) was trying to find strategies to gain some economic independence such that they can afford a general strike- mutual aid might be a popular option (as well as how unions use their funds from dues to pay work on strike), but my point is only that looting is likely to be an unpopular option, and thus one that would harm the movement's reputation and ability to remain supported by the majority on which it depends.

I did not mean that in absolute terms anything must justify its existence through majority support, as you pointed out that's not how the world works.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

yes, I agree entirely- but I'm not sure what further point you are making or how it is relevant

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (4 children)

oligarchy is supported by the rich and powerful which is how it exists against the majority; I doubt you're suggesting looting is a feasible option for the same reasons...

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

amazing ๐Ÿ˜ and these are not all that common, right?

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (6 children)

looting will not be supported by the majority

 

Here are some basic facts:

  • method was penile inversion
  • I opted for full-depth rather than a vulvoplasty
  • surgery took 3 hours, though recovery took another hour
  • I went under general anaesthesia and had to be intubated and put on a ventilator
  • I'm currently admitted in the hospital and bed bound, discharge is scheduled for Friday
  • so far pain is between 1 and 3 for me, most of the time it's between a 0 and 1.

Ask me anything!

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any vaginoplasty advice? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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Things I should bring, or shouldn't bring?

What I should do before and after, or not do?

What are your experiences and sage advice (or just gripes or personal experiences you want to share)?

EDIT:

Related previous posts:

 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/29789039

Theresa Garnett (1888 - 1966)

Thu May 17, 1888

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Theresa Garnett, born on this day in 1888, was a militant British suffragette whose acts of feminist rebellion included assaulting Winston Churchill with a whip, shouting "Take that in the name of the insulted women of England!"

Garnett was born in Leeds on May 17th, 1888. In 1907, she joined the Women's Social and Political Union (WSPU) after being inspired by a speech given by the feminist and later co-founder of the Australian Communist Party Adela Pankhurst.

The WSPU fought for women's suffrage in the United Kingdom and was noted for its use of direct action. Its members heckled politicians, held demonstrations and marches, broke the law to force arrests, broke windows in prominent buildings, set fire to post boxes, committed night-time arson of unoccupied houses and churches, and, when imprisoned, went on hunger strike and endured physically traumatizing force-feeding.

Garnett participated in several of these actions as a young adult, chaining herself in 1909, along with four other activists, to a statue in Parliament in protest of a law meant to prohibit disorderly conduct while Parliament was in session.

On November 14th, 1909, Garnett assaulted Winston Churchill, who instituted policies of force feeding suffragettes in prison, with a whip, striking him several times while shouting "Take that in the name of the insulted women of England!"


 

If my account is on Blahaj and the community I moderate is on another instance like lemmy.world, and the user is from an instance we defederate from like hexbear, I won't see the hexbear user's comments (or even their user if I search for it) from my Blahaj instance, and so I don't see a way I can moderate their comments on the lemmy.world instance I moderate.

Does this seem right? Is there any workaround?

(I guess I could make an account on the same instance as the community I moderate just for moderating that instance?)

 
 
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EDIT: there are a lot of questions being asked that would be clarified by being silly enough to end up in grippysockjail yourself ๐Ÿ˜

 

Considered to be some of the earliest feminist writings, her work includes novels, poetry, and biography, and she also penned literary, historical, philosophical, political, and religious reviews and analyses.

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Her activism has also drawn the fascination of modern feminists. Simone de Beauvoir wrote in 1949 that ร‰pรฎtre au Dieu d'Amour was "the first time we see a woman take up her pen in defence of her sex".

I would like to read some of her work, but haven't yet.

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sidebar rule rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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fucked up question, I know - but ultimately it's a question about suffering and experience of personhood - did "you" really experience the torture for an hour if you don't remember it later?

What about the hour where you were awake and present, before the memory is wiped? How much does that suffering matter? Does the fact that after the torture you won't remember override the suffering you will experience in the present during the torture, relative to suffering you will remember the rest of your life?

 

I love this space and I keep wanting to share photos of outfits I have put together, but I don't know how to do that in a way that protects my privacy ... It seems like a lot of effort to use software to edit the photos to make them safe to share, for example.

I was wanting to check with the community and see how women solve this problem generally, and maybe brainstorm a list of ideas of ways to safely share selfies / photos, here were some ideas I had:

  • take photos with neutral backgrounds that don't disclose private information (e.g. location)
  • use something like an emoji to cover up face
  • find a way to share the photo in a password protected way (with what service?), and only distribute the password to users you trust (unclear on the logistics here)
  • share the photo with an expiration feature, e.g. allowing only a certain number of times to view it (Signal has a feature like this) or that expires after some amount of time

Was wondering how you all find online spaces for women where it's safe to share outfits.

I know on Reddit, some of the subreddits for finding a good bra make every post a spoiler, making it harder for prurient men to easily browse and preview photos, etc.

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