compostgoblin

He is Murray Bookchin, an anarchist philosopher who developed the theory of social ecology. Although he kind of got disillusioned with anarchism later on and created his own thing called communalism

Would you like to experiment with people using she/her pronouns?

I think so? I’ve used he/they for a while, but people tend to just go with the ‘he’, which feels less and less like me. And it reminds me that most everyone sees me as male, as little as I identify with that. I just need someone I can trust to try them out with without judgment

Would you like to get feminising hormones?

Possibly? It feels like a big commitment though, and I might need to look into having sperm preserved first, since my wife and I do want kids. The effects sound mostly like things I want, but it feels like a “point of no return“ that I don’t know if I’m ready for yet

Would you like to present feminine more often?

100%. My hair is getting pretty long, and I really like having my nails painted. I started shaving my chest, and I want to start shaving my legs and buy some women’s clothes, like skirts and tank tops. And I want to get my earlobes pierced soon to start wearing earrings (in addition to the cartilage piercings i already have). I already get pretty self conscious when I go to work just with long hair and painted nails though. It’s a more conservative field (engineering) so I feel very much like people are looking at me, or I’m the odd one out, and I get nervous about how much I’m pushing the boundaries of what people expect me to be like.

I think I’m going to keep doing more to present more feminine, especially at home, and probably have some conversations with my wife about trying out new pronouns a little.

Thank you for all the advice, I appreciate it :)

For most of my life I identified as "just a regular dude... unfortunately".

I felt that way for a long time (and still do sometimes). Being raised in a subculture that so heavily reinforces gender roles, it took a long time for me to understand the breadth of people’s gender experiences.

You might like to reflect some more on what this implies about your gender.

I define will, and fortunately, I have therapy this weekend. My therapist has been great about helping me work out some of my gender feelings in a positive and non-judgmental way

And thank you for recommending the sidebar! I’m usually on mobile, so I forget sidebars are a thing, I’ll check out the resources there

Sounds like a great therapist, I’m glad you found her!

It’s funny, I feel somewhat the opposite - I think I might prefer a female body over my current male one, but I don’t have any particular issue with having a dick

Too late to stop it from happening, not too late for consequences (in theory)

It’s been a few hours. I’m confident that no one is forgetting this as a lesson in the danger of trusting the US going fares.

Continued to support Democrats after they fucked him in the 2016 primary, I’m guessing?

I don’t know, I still like him

Are you fucking kidding me? Governments should be moving toward systems that make information easily accessible to every person in the country.

I mean, I’m not surprised, because America is The Bad Place. But they continue to find new and creative ways to disappoint and infuriate me

Yeah, I was in a mood this morning. Seasonal depression is a doozy this time of year.

I’m actually planning to do some containers on my balcony this year. I do miss having an outdoor garden, though

Spend lots of time gardening, reading, writing, and painting. Unfortunately, it seems like I’m going to have to spend the next forty years as a wage slave before I can enjoy that life

Who cares? Texting is meant to be a convenience, not something that demands my attention. That’s the beauty of texting vs a phone call - I have time to think and do other things before replying