Vibi

joined 1 year ago
[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I'm super into skincare and have tried many different moisturizers. These are the ones I'm currently using and love them 🩷

Face (though you can use the big tub for body, too):

  • Illiyoon Ceramide Ato Concentrate Cream

Body:

  • Dermalogica Body Hydrating Cream, Body Lotion with Green Tea and Lemon Oil
  • La Roche-Posay Lipikar AP+ Triple Repair Moisturizing Cream

I use two different ones on my body, depending on the area.

The creams will sit on your skin until they are absorbed, but they leave skin hydrated for 48-72 hours.

For more lightweight ones (also more affordable) - Face:

  • CeraVe PM Facial Moisturizing Lotion

Body:

  • CeraVe Daily Moisturizing Lotion for Dry Skin

I recommend buying the smaller sizes to start so that you can gauge your reactions to them. Good luck!!

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 months ago

Late 20s to early 30s. It was during lockdowns when I wasn't interacting with irl society much - work was all remote, and all my interactions were online. I quickly realized that when I removed the pressure of having to conform to what I thought was expected of me, I was actually a completely different person. I started interacting with more queer people, especially trans individuals, and realized that there were a lot of parallels with how they felt about gender and all the other constructs of society which never really made sense to me. Honestly, I meant sooo many when I started FFXIV.

The idea that I could decide how I wanted to identify and be perceived by people never really occurred to me.

I had always disliked a lot of aspects about myself and tried to be as much of a ghost as possible. It rarely felt like I was living for me. As I slowly started to explore the things I truly liked - cute things, pink things, and soft things - I noticed my views of life started to brighten. I felt more excited about the things I was surrounding myself with, and I noticed people were interacting with me in a friendlier and warmer way. As I started to shine brighter, people around me started to shine brighter, too!

All that said - why didn’t I just lean into identifying as NB or just fully ignore gender as a whole? I did initially, but about those things which I didn’t like about myself - so many happened to be T driven. Thick body and facial hair- no thank you, thick/rough/acne prone skin- please go, body composition- wasn’t really liking how it fit in the dresses/skirts I wanted to wear, overall mindset and emotions (this changed a lot), etc. Obviously, all these things have taken time and additional effort, but it all feels so fulfilling.

I was initially worried about how people in my life would react/treat me, but I decided to start always putting my own feelings and desires first... no one else was going to. I will acknowledge that it's bit easier for me to do that- my circle is incredibly small, I’ve been single for 5-6 years, I was working remotely, and I kind of rarely leave my home.

My question to people - if you had an irl character creator, how would you design yourself? How would you choose to move in the world if there were no expectations?

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 months ago

I thiiink I do prefer this over the completely blunted/ambivalent feelings I had before, but the lows are hitting hard 🥹 heated blanket + ice cream + mood lights are super helping 😌

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Girls, is this the progesterone? So, last week I was having a pretty great week- I saw The Colors Within with a friend, got my nails done by an amazing tech, playing soo much of the new Infinity Nikki update- spending nights coordinating outfits with a friend and taking photos, and just overall shining...and then ouch! My heart turned into an absolute storm, yearning for a deeper, more romantic, connection with someone. Like, I've been single for sooo long, and while I don't love that, I was kind of used to my feelings; overnight, my emotions, and how they manifested completely shifted. My heart alternates between heavy with melancholy to fluttering when thinking about a connection with another person. I don't know what these feelings are, and they are so intense- ahhhh!

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 months ago

Yesss! Enjoy!! The effects on skin were one of the big aspects of hrt that I was super looking forward to! It was so frustrating having a dedicated skincare routine and constantly fighting all the issues that testosterone creates. One of my favorite things at the end of the day is just petting myself 🤭

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I actually still own the TV and researched the issue off and on for years. It's just a design flaw and why they were offered during that Black Friday sale. I've gone through every menu and upgraded the fw; it's just the way it is 🤷‍♀️

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 5 months ago (3 children)

For the most random reason, Borderline Forever. For the longest time, I only watched YouTube on my TV- it was one of my end of night routines, and I had a few channels that I always kept up to date with. Now, I have to note that the TV I owned, for many years, was a super cheap 50" TV I bought from Walmart during Black Friday . It wasn't great, but it was the first TV I bought myself when I started living on my own. One of the quirks of that TV was that the bezel actually extended over the screen and covered some of it. It wasn't ever really an issue, but every now and again, I'd be aware of it. So, you can imagine my absolute surprise to learn that the blue border which was on all his thumbnails was actually part of his videos as well- a whole episode to highlight something I had been completely unaware of for hundreds of episodes. I honestly don't remember much of the episode, but it was a big reason I ended up buying a new TV 🤭

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Seems pretty easy to become one. I am slightly interested in becoming one and offering services to the gender diverse people in my area and community!

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I do get the idea, but I feel like if I'm sending in so many supporting documents, plus a check, that should suffice... I was told that UPS usually has a notary on staff, so that's my plan!

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 6 months ago

Sounds really nice, and based on the reviews, it seems like a very cozy and supportive place! The UI and overall design though 😬 It probably grows on you over time. Thank you for sharing 🩷 Saving to look more into later!

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 6 months ago (10 children)

Also wondering this. I actually have a change open right now, but I guess I needed a notary to sign something... I've been waiting each day to see if I should get the form signed and send it back.

Mild rant... but I don't understand why I need a notary (someone who knows nothing about me) involved in the process. Like, how are my court documents, updated driver's license, and updated Social Security card not enough to prove my identity...

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 6 months ago (2 children)

It's so hard to explain this to people too 😭 my entire existence just freezes until whatever is scheduled is finished. And then those times when people cancel last minute and the entire day was like this...

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