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Best of luck to you, it sounds like you're moving past it pretty well compared to some others I've heard about or know.

Low, low, low. It's limbo low, right on the ground with the dirt.

Getting real “I told him I wanted a sensitive guy but then he cried and I got the ick” vibes on this one.

Spot on, I've learned the hard way to never trust someone who harangues me about my feelings. If they're too tactless to make the offer and leave the ball in your court, they can't be trusted with what you confide in them to begin with. Willingly feeding sensitive information about your feelings is a risky game, it's important to know whether or not they're just aping at stock phrases about emotional health beforehand, or actually someone who can be relied upon to give objective support.

It is, the respawn rates are insane by modern standards. 0/10 would not recommend, stick to the movies instead.

Shortly after we graduated she moved away and didn’t stay in contact. I tried a few times, said I could come visit her one day, but at first I only got one-sentence-answers, later nothing.

The answer to your question, I feel, is obvious. It's right there: Lydia's not the good person that you hoped she might be when you were a kid, and she probably isn't now either. It's not that she's too stupid to understand what happened, it's just that she doesn't want to acknowledge her role in it - she couldn't do it before, and she's not going to do it now.

As much as she chickened out and left you hanging all that time ago, I'm surprised that you're not more pissed at the assholes who were directly responsible for bullying you. You seem to be deflecting blame onto your gutless 'friend', why not take aim at the true culprits? IMO it's a good idea to at least talk frankly with her, but I wouldn't hold out hope of some sudden realization and reconciliation if she didn't bother touching base in the past two decades. It bears saying, though, that you at least deserve a straight answer from her, assuming that she's not still as self-absorbed as she was before...

It's times like this, with this kind of phraseology floating around, that I think about the Poison Girls' track Crisis: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlTJUaYo6Vk

Don't try to remove them with spoons?

Interesting, thanks for the explanation. I have yet to see any Mastadon content on here, or visa versa, but I'm still just dipping my toe into Lemmy without the tech know-how.

Don't whiz on the electric fence, right?

I don't even want to think about mopping that up, TBH. Hard pass from me.

Stand around, politely sipping your $21 beer.