That is a lot of baggage to be carrying. I'm sorry for everything you're all going through.
If you want blind judgement on the situation... If "I went on a date that went nowhere when we were broken up" is a "confession" that will end your relationship, then sorry but it's already dead IMO. This should be a non-issue at all times.
While the fuck cars sentiment is as important as always, planning rules like this have a few goals which aren't all so malicious, including stopping projects decoupling their parking space and selling it for extra, or avoiding 30+ cars all over the sidewalks once everyone is moved in.
Planning codes tend to try and anticipate a community's immediate vicinity needs. The best approach though would be "$x000 per unit to provide and maintain local public transport facilities and routes"