I appreciate that ty for your comment. Yeah it’s a combo of my dad being an ex pastor and my mom being raised in what she herself described as a Christian cult that she recently rejoined, giving the evangelical vibes, and my mother being an alcohol abuser since I was a child.
I’m sober because of what alcohol did and does to my family, but I’ve never articulated that to them. I think my parents are aware enough to recognize their own alcohol abuse and its impacts though, and they take me rejecting alcohol entirely as a slight at them for that so defensively try to change me instead of reflecting. It’s a weird dynamic
I dealt with so much abuse and bigotry being raised in the church. They’re words that remind me of years of the worst shit organized religion can do behind closed doors, and this is context that was known in this situation and intentionally disregarded because they don’t view my beliefs and experiences as valid or respectable.
I don’t expect you to know all the context and details, I’m just venting, but it’s a lot more than just words to me