Yeah, uh, men in general scare me I think because I am scared of my dad. Men who appear to have qualities more typically associated with femme-presenting people are the ones I tend to get along with more.
Obviously I'm not saying some traits or characteristics are essentially femme or for women, only, in the region I'm in, if you asked a bunch of people, probably more than 50% would presume other traits as being masculine rather than the ones I am referring to. Stuff like using words like 'cute', having great tasting cocktails, enjoying spas, hair removal procedures on their face (like between the eyebrows and in the upper cheek), etc.
I like to show my ๐ or mention my wife earlier in the conversation. Also that it was me rather than her who suggested couple therapy.