Daxter101

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (12 children)

I feel weird about these kinds of things people say.

I get it's coming from a kind place, and I guess that for some people it might help and give them strength to keep going, but for me... It feels like being coddled.

Let me make my position very clear, I'm talking about the conflation of what you are with how you look.

Not all women look femme. And while OP has expressed in other comments that she has feminine characteristics (while she discounts them, despite being important (hey OP, a feminine voice is a Very feminine thing to have, it might contribute a lot to you being seen as a femboy)), you haven't seen how she looks in order to call how she looks 'femme'.

How I personally feelFemme means something specific. I'm a slightly dysphoric enby, who looks more masc than I want, and when people who know, try to tell me I look femme, I (do get euphoric, and then) ask them why. And honestly, if they don't have a good vibe of understanding what they're saying, it feels disingenuous, and it feels bad. Like a confirmation that they don't see the femme parts that are here.

On top of everything else, people could still be in the process of becoming what they want to look like. I personally prefer to hear others' honest impressions, in order to understand how to better change, if I so desire. I guess there's a need for both feedback and validation, and I prefer that each person give of what they actually have to give, what they actually do think.

To OP:OP, stay strong, it sounds like you're making some tough decisions, based on your living conditions. I do think that, if you can't actually come out as a trans woman, coming out as a femboy might make you go through 2 easier, but still difficult situations, rather than one very difficult one. Coming out is never over anyway, and details always change in one's life, but do the best your senses tell you you can do, they're usually your best bet, since you know your life. Your gut can take a lot more information in to make a decision, than other people can, or even your logical side can. You sound like you have the perseverance for this. Good luck, and have fun with your journey!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

Apothecary diaries irl

(Good show, recommended)

[–] [email protected] 23 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

No longer a mathematical problem, but determine the largest piece that can be removed, before it becomes apparent to onlookers that the leftover pizza has been tampered with.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

Remember the premise, cheating is lying about the situation, and acting on those needs without consent.

There is no world where that is healthier than whatever mutual agreement the couple could end up in, after honestly sharing their situation.

If the care for the needs of the child is real and actually shared between the parents, anything ranging from a sexually open marriage, to a divorce with uninterrupted coparenting, is leagues better than pretending you want to be there while actually both having a bad time around your child's other parent, and constantly lying.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (4 children)

If you don't care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you.

End the relationship since you don't care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish.

Cheating isn't a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

So, there was a community called "non voters", created by MindTraveller?

Ada locked it down for not confirming with the spirit of the instance (I'm going to shallowly read into the name of the community, and say that the lock seems fair, from the outside).

Then, it reads to me like MindTraveller made another community, which was also taken down, and got him banned along with it.

Why did those things happen? Why was a second community made? Why was it banned? Why are you claiming that it was an unfair ban?

Honestly, if those points aren't clarified, Ada appears to be really reasonable from a bystander's perspective.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 11 months ago (4 children)

I also have always wanted to sleep in a huge dog bed but, unfortunately

Summer

I'm already suffering the tyranny of sweating all my liquids out twice a night, this would add a whole extra dimension of heat (pun not intended)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

God damn acab I swear

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago (2 children)

As someone who has absolutely no idea what is going on:

Can you provide sources for the things you're saying?

A raw opinion for its opinion's sake... I'm not sure it's a fitting post for something of such gravity, in the instance's meta community.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Sweet Jesus.

I'm ashamed to say it might even work on me though

[–] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

... Yeah it is 🫠🥲

In literal terms it translates to "before-the-road" (pro - drómou)

(this literal translation includes the ambiguity of before- as in 'temporally before', or before- as in 'in front of')

So any way you slice it, it's pretty ironic.

[–] [email protected] 60 points 11 months ago (3 children)

"Prodromou" is a Greek surname, with the rough meaning "the one who walks the road before others".

So him being "a visionary" is fun, lol

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