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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Should I keep scrolling the comments to find an ICE raid/raid shadow legends joke...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

No, you're right. It is so emergency services prioritise cars with the sign.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

Is it stealing if I buy a second hand book? I'm still getting to enjoy the work without paying the author (even if the original person paid). Multiple people can own a physical copy at different times (with the author only getting paid once).

Just like downloads. I don't feel bad about downloading stuff that's out of print. No one is making money from it now anyway, so what harm. If anything, digital copies help to stop these books being lost.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

I've been in a similar situation. It seems it's the only type of person I seem to attract. They pursue me, only when I eventually reciprocate they freak out, and self-sabotage ensues. In my case, the only thing was to walk away, because they were dragging me down with them. Some people can get past the trust issues (I have my own issues that I've been working through), but others can't. So I don't actually have any advice, sorry.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

It reminds me of something our former chief clown once did:

https://schoolsweek.co.uk/noticeboard-firm-boss-slides-were-taken-out-of-context-and-arent-pro-boris-propaganda/

Edit: apparently he wasn't behind it, but I can see something like this officially happening if MAGA UK (Farridge) gets in. Except you'll get a load of racism and xenophobia added in too.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Google maps showing 22 min walk between the sites

I was hoping for a gnome wonderland but it's just a campsite with garden gnomes :(

You could get a fun park in on the same day though.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

That's the John Finnemore horsebox sketch!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=e3TgxXp5nEI

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Don't be too hard on yourself, mate.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

That was heartbreaking to read. That poor man.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

Strengens muscles are the best kind of muscles!

 

I only just found out.

A bike-friendly city is a people-friendly city.

Happy cycling!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Typical gen z! 🙄

Jk

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

There seems to be a visual glitch, where upvoting also makes the downvote counter go up by one as well.

Edit: hopefully this link works: https://autistics.life/@SilverArrows/114474315964904870

 

I don't know if I'm missing it, but I can't see an option to report accounts. I just got another Nicole spam, this time with a bunch of bitcoin links, but I could only find a block option via Connect, and had to logon via web to report the account. I looked on the three-dot menus both on the message and the profile, but I couldn't see a report.

 

There used to be a red and blue gradient background here. Now it's gone. I reset the theme, but it still shows white text on white background. Not that big of a deal as there's nothing there I need to read, but still mildly annoying. Also it means the switch user option isn't visible now.

Also is this how the surface colour setting is meant to work? I wanted the background colour in light mode to be an off-white so it's easier on the eyes, but there doesn't seem to be a way?

Thanks!

 

From https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yDjlRu4CnjI

NomoSapienss: Park Tool company is the father I never had!

ParkTool: We're proud of you, son 💙

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

This time, Jenny is done with his crap and walking away from a toxic relationship.

(Background iimage by DallE 3)

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Anxiety vs Overwhelm (neurodivergentinsights.com)
 

Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

 

Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

 

He is such a chill dude! Can you believe HE wanted MY autograph? I wish I could have thought of more things to ask him about. I'm still a noob at bike mechanics, and a slow learner, but he was so encouraging and kind, and a lot of fun!

He really is a mechanical hero!

 

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