BrezhnevsEyebrows

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[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 19 points 8 months ago

This chapter resonates with me in a very depressing way. I feel like even today I have a difficult time expressing real emotions, even with my gf, because it feels very vulnerable to open myself up like that considering the bad experiences I've had in the past with displaying emotion. Whenever i have to talk about my own feelings eith someone it feels very awkward and "cringe", for lack of a better word, to even think about having a genuine emotional connection with someone (especially other men). Even thinking about telling someone after the fact that something they said hurt me makes me incredibly uncomfortable.

I like that Bell hooks talks about how "real men get mad" as well because it's very frustrating to not have the willingness or experience to be able to express my feelings with the full spectrum of feeling available to others. Often the only way I've found I know how to express that something someone said was hurtful is frustration and anger in the moment, which just creates further strife especially when the other person gets defensive in response.

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 19 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (4 children)

the raging, man-hating feminist (though hooks acknowledges those kinds of feminists do exist in a very small minority).

It feels like its gotten bigger in recent times, and I believe based on my interactions with these types is that this is the ideological seed of TERF-ism (since it never takes long to find some transphobic bs on their accounts)

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 5 points 8 months ago

I love this book, about due for a re-read. ping me

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 2 points 10 months ago

Maybe I should try one again, the last time I had one was like 10 years ago

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It's nasty is what it is

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 6 points 10 months ago

Oh I didnt even think about that tbh. I assumed it was like "oh wow you're so offended that i said theres 2 genders" type stuff

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 3 points 10 months ago (2 children)

What's really hilarious (and by hilarious i mean sad) is somehow only 23% of "progressive left" said people being too easily offended isn't a problem at all

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 13 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

it's a little disorienting to see people I would've mostly agreed with inhabiting an alien world and speaking a totally different language.

I relate to this so much. Sometimes I look at libs and take a step back and think, "wow, if things had gone differently this would have been the kind of thing I believed in today"

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 3 points 11 months ago

Getting home from a communal activity that encourages socialization (fighting game local) and reading this wowee

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Current trends WILL continue forever and nothing ever happens or changes

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