AdmiralDoohickey

joined 7 months ago
[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

The line manager told me to do what I need to protect myself and that I am doing very well, the senior that oversees me told me that I can take 5 days/week and they will defend me against the middle manager since I do my work well.

Once the middle manager caught wind of my violation of RTO, I got chewed by the line manager for taking too many days when I haven't gotten ownership of my area yet, and when I confronted them about their previous words they told me they didn't mean that.

After that, I continued to ignore RTO but to a smaller extent because it's either testing my luck like that or quitting. I dunno if it is the autism or the anxiety but working in the office for more than 2 days/week leaves me a wreck that is unable to enjoy things.

I got chewed again last week by the middle manager themselves, with the line manager and the senior I mentioned as backup. Pretty much all of them played the bad cop role, telling me that my performance (they switched to what they really meant, my attendance after 5min since I actually perform above average) was not satisfactory anymore and that my remote privileges are completely revoked and that if I can't come to office I should take paid leave). The middle manager pretty much told me to leave if I didn't like that, even when I talked to him about providing the HR with a medical certificate about my health issues (mental health but like hell I am going to tell that to them and give them another reason to discriminate against me). The line manager and the senior, the ones who encouraged me to begin with just made me feel like shit and doubt myself about my supposedly "bad" performance.

I decided to leave after that, I can't stand that workplace anymore and I cannot fully RTO. I'm not sure if they soft fired me or if they are delusional enough to believe that I will somehow pull myself from my bootstraps and go there everyday (they are short on people due to RTO + one person being seriously sick and the workload will be doubled pretty much in the following months).

When talking one-to-one, the line manager mentioned that my work is great when I am there but I took too many leaves the past month. No shit, if I am burnt out from having to come to the office and having to work overtime sometimes, and having to cope with our customer's unreasonable demands, of course I will have to take some leaves and my performance will halt (I will admit this only for the past 8 days before the 2nd chewing up, due to the aforementioned burn out). I can't stand this duplicity from him and the senior (which I of course know is due to the pressure from their higher up).

I can't work there anymore. I pretty much lost my first job due to being autistic (I even tried getting accommodations through the company doctor which were revoked my the middle manager because everyone has issues so no-one should have accommodations [sic]). I don't know what to tell my parents. I don't know if I will be able to find the courage to job search again anytime soon. Capitalism is hell but if you are disabled its just another whole shitpile of suffering. How tf do I have to do this until I die

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

The recruiters care more about experience than grades tbh. If you can get an internship with a B you will be in a better position than someone with an A but absolutely no experience

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Living through the 3rd year of WW3 and seeing things escalate while having to go to work and function as a normal human being is completely absurd. How the fuck does everyone continue to live

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

What the fuck. I am 8 episodes in Kamen Rider 555 and it's actually good. I would like it more if it had some more mature themes but it's pretty good, especially for a child-targeted TV show. I think shows aimed at adults in my country are less well-written and directed than this one

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

When I am in full work mode for weeks and I don't really experience media I have an intense desire to collect yu-gi-oh cards, which disappears once I play a good game / watch a good anime. I had understood that people consume useless stuff because they want to feel something when they don't have time for a more time-consuming but more satisfying activity that has some substance, but feeling it myself is a whole other beast.

Why can't I work 4 days / week or something, I am not even asking to not work at all. My job is too stressful to have to go to the office and talk with representatives of our client everyday. Does everyone feel this way regardless of mental illness or neurodiversity?

scared

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

When I was unemployed I had a ton of free time but I felt that something was missing, and I was anxious about not having a job. Now that I am employed, my free time has been reduced by a ton and I miss being unemployed. Shits weird

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

For co-op games try Rabbit & Steel and Secrets of Grindea

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Well THAT just happened lea-smug

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I think I have reached the autism/ADHD/OCD endgame. I cannot make myself experience anything new without someone else holding my hand and doing it with me (usually my gf), whether it is some new piece of media or learning something (which I loved before my symptoms flared up and targeted it in uni). The only thing I can do is work work work until I get fired for being too burnt out to do it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

For me it's tralalero tralala

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Is any Kamen Rider any good as an adult? I'm in the mood for something light media-wise so I am curious about this series

 

And why is it Mahou Shoujo Beanis-Chan?

 

Feel free to speak about your favorites, recommend games to other users and anything else you can think of. My rationale for my favorites is the following (I am not a very good writer so bear with me):

Planescape Torment: Interesting setting which I feel is drug-fueled to an extent, great gritty atmosphere, the writing is very good and the narrative is extremely interesting and well done. Go blind and you won't regret it.

Terraria: The game has a lot of flaws (and I prefer the exploration focus before hardmode more than the boss rush), but I have played it a ton of times alone, or with my gf, or with friends so it is my comfort game and I can always relax when playing it. Also, he Thorium mod is a pretty good content mod that stays true to the spirit of the game.

FFXIV: Shadowbringers: It's the climax of the whole story of FFXIV, where almost all of the mysteries are resolved, the plotlines converge and the main antagonists are confronted and explored. I love the setting, the enemies and the lore of the First as a whole, and the story if full of emotion and more thematically rich than one would expect, with a part of the game being a direct parallel of the first world during climate change, and it involves positively if naively portrayed class struggle.

ZeroRanger: Besides the amazing aesthetic, soundtrack and the good gameplay (two of the bosses are some of my favorite of all time), the game blends the story with every aspect of the gameplay seamlessly and it perfectly executes the Buddhism theme in ways I cannot explain without spoiling you. It also has its fair share of emotional moments, and is the perfect mecha anime-like game imo. OFF: Fucked up surreal RPG maker game with a unique aesthetic and disturbing atmosphere and soundtrack. The story has many interpretations and it makes great use of the gaming medium in a meta way to make you feel things. It's probably the most artistic game I have ever played.

Trails in the Sky trilogy: I used the 3rd for my 3x3 since it is the one that impacted me the most emotionally due to the amazing character writing and the emotional journey of the protagonist, but the whole trilogy is the peak of JRPGs for me, with a very fun combat system, amazing music, characters and an interesting setting with great worldbuilding. Some dislike it due to being slower plot-wise than games like Final Fantasy, but that just gives the characters and the setting time to be fleshed out, making you much more invested when shit actually goes down. The portrayal of the nationalist antagonists and the politics as a whole are lib, but in the face of everything else that makes the games good I can easily ignore it.

Hollow Knight: This is pretty much the perfect platformer in all aspects except the music which is very good but not exactly my style. The aesthetic, exploration and bosses are all amazing and I thoroughly enjoyed my time with it.

Katamari Damacy: Has a very unique style of gameplay and humor which accompanied with the great Shibuya-kei soundtrack makes for a great stress reliever game. The final level is something to behold as well (I won't spoil you).

These games have become part of me (sorry for the cheesiness), and if you haven't played them you are doing yourself a disservice.

 

I substituted brown lentils for red lentils because we like them more and it was great. Curries and salsas + rice/pasta are peak food wholesome

 

I have the following symptoms:

  • Hair thinning on the top of my head
  • Feeling more tired than usual
  • Going to the toilet more often
  • Feeling colder compared to my gf despite being fatter
  • Dry skin

Could these be related to the change in my diet? If so I will go for a blood test, which vitamins would you recommend me to check? (I will obviously take them as supplements if needed)

Other changes in my life in the last year were finding a job and starting Zoloft.

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