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It does not make it impossible but proper communication of potentially sensitive topics, conscious reciprocity, and understanding why specifically certain things they do make you feel a certain way are all practiced talents. Some people are naturals at all sorts of things and are good at it by default, but if you're trying to figure out if you want to date somebody or not, it's as good of an indicator as any. Lastly, you can absolutely be a good person and a bad romantic partner. People aren't primarily attracted to virtue, and virtue does not make you good at communication.
All true. I guess my point was that nobody can make absolute statements about love and romance and intimacy, and that even experience or a lack thereof is no guarantor of skill one way or another. But true, not everyone is a natural, nor is it reasonable to expect potential romantic partners to be able to sus that out when they have nothing else to go on.