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No, society's expectations are designed to make us feel bad. If you didn't feel pathetic for this it would be something else. The feeling of being pathetic is the feeling of exploitation and oppression.
I have friends who, if they ever had sex, noone knows about it. And they're doing great.
I used to be really promiscuous and honestly there's nothing to it. People who wanna fuck are gonna find people who wanna fuck, and fuck. All different people, doesn't matter what they look like or act like. That doesn't make me happy. Maybe it makes some people happy, but if it does, I haven't seen it.
Every time I got into a sexual relationship it was like 6 months of obsessing, and then 3 months to get over it once it was over. I could have saved myself the pain and saved the money I spent on bar tabs, read books, hung out with friends, or even just smoked a mountain of weed and passed out. Any and all of those options would have been much better than going out 5-6 nights per week. That was pathetic.
There's all different kinds of people in the world who feel different needs at different intensities. Be yourself and play to your strengths. It will bring more happiness over time than the occasional empty fuck.
Not anti-sex at all, just demonstrating a viewpoint.