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Where does this dissonance come from? I have lots of energy & initiative to care for others but struggle to care for myself. (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/5550838

For example, this week I spent 6 hours helping a friend fix their roof & 0 fixing the leak in my roof. Most of the meals that I cooked were when I had company or going to a potluck. It takes me until the umpteenth 'let me just squish it down' and the flies start buzzing to take the trash out....

...It feels like if I were a stranger, I would take better care of myself than I do, if that makes sense?

In general, I feel like I am a very values- and care-driven person. Like what feels meaningful is taking care of my community and working towards the world I want to live in. I have a good reputation in my community & activist circles for consistent work and following through on what I commit to do....

...none of that seems to apply to myself! My dishes sit in the sink for days, and I usually only bathe in preparation for public events.

This will not do! How do I treat myself like I treat others? Ahhhh!

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I very much feel the same way. it's easier to give gifts than do chores.

I was thinking I had more to say but I don't actually, I think it really just comes down to that for me.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

It does feel like one of those simple-but-heavy problems.