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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Lumpstw on 2023-10-01 14:20:40.

Im genuinely curious. I'm a white guy and I'm just hearing about this topic today. Had a talk with a close friend whos a black girl and she had mentioned this topic.I've no prior knowledge with this but im also doing other research on it. Does it differ from the other way around (black guy, white girl)? And what is the best approach to tackling the issue?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ThrowRA_longing on 2023-10-01 19:03:48.

I work with children, but my boss doesn't normally care if you're sick, still expects you to come in. I've had to work with stomach bugs multiple times or else my job was at stake, but I am not going to be able to work tomorrow. I need to make it clear that nasty things are coming from both my bottom and my mouth and I am a few steps away from feeling like death would be an easier answer. I can't just say 'stomach bug' or that I'm sick without explaining too much. How can I get my point across without being too crass? Thank you!!

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/anactualspacecadet on 2023-10-01 15:23:02.

Just wondering, id say roughly 5-10 times a day for me.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/AfraidAttention4055 on 2023-10-01 17:18:23.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Guilty-Rough8797 on 2023-10-01 19:27:56.

This has been bothering me in a low-key way for the better part of a year and a half whenever I think of it. I can't stand mysteries like this.

My BF and I lived in his parents' house for a while, and I had occasion to notice that my MIL (guess it could be FIL, but MIL is the one with the .... quirks) keeps a large-ish spoon in her bathroom on the counter on a neatly-folded towel. I would never ask her why because it's none of my business, but I just....can't....imagine WHY the spoon is kept there, and I cannot die not knowing the purpose of the bathroom spoon.

Can anyone think of any plausible reason for the bathroom spoon?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/FooFooThaSnoo on 2023-10-01 16:28:38.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/guaaaaava on 2023-10-01 16:22:09.

My parents once told me that they deeply had considered to abort me for several reasons.

Firstly, I was unexpected. My mum was a bit old for pregnancy so it could be dangerous for her. Secondly, they already had had a miscarriage before having me, and they felt kinda guilty about it. Thirdly, doctors told them that I might be deformed because of medicine my mum took. And everyone told them that they had to abort me.

But they didn’t. They additionally said that they had never regretted for having me and they were lucky to have me. And also, I’ve always felt they truly love and support me, I haven’t had any problem with my parents in my entire life. I guess that’s why I was alright when I heard the story. Rather, I thought I could understand my parents as human being more.

I talked about it with my friend and she told me she’d feel resentful if her parents had wanted to abort her. But I don’t feel angry, shocked or betrayed at my parents. Is it weird?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/kaebie on 2023-10-01 17:02:58.

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now and we hang out almost every day. The other night we were just cuddling and talking, and he breaks a moment of silence to mention that I “must be getting my period soon”. I was kinda shocked because while I don’t actually track my period, I know the general rhythm of my flow and can fall back in line whenever it changes. He knows this and he’s right, I am getting it soon. At first I thought he meant I smelt like blood or something gross and immediately got a lil self-conscious, but when I asked he shook his head and told me I smelt “sweeter”. I didn’t know what to say so I gave him an “okay cool” and the conversation kept going from there.

But, obviously, I’m still thinking about it. I’ve never even heard of this kinda thing before. He’s the only person who’s ever shared a space with me for a while that’s ever mentioned this too! Anyone else had any experience like this?

Edit: Forgot to mention whether I was actually getting my period or not

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/PurfectlySplendid on 2023-10-01 16:52:43.

Like, it doesn’t make him more relatable, or funny. If anything I get the impression that he’s a clown who should have nowhere the money and power he currently has. Is the delusional?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Chrip846 on 2023-09-30 20:02:23.

Me (20M) and my girlfriend (20F) have have been dating for a little bit over 2 years now. We spend a lot of time around each others families and luckily we both have pretty “transparent” relationships with our parents. One thing that they pretty commonly bring up is questions like “when are you gonna have kids” or pretty much just questions having to do with kids, when we plan on having them and how many we want to have. We don’t exactly keep it a secret that we don’t want children. We have talked about this a lot and both just come to the conclusion that we don’t want them. In mentioning this to either of our parents they are usually pretty hostile about it. Like saying what’s the point of living our lives and getting married if we don’t want children. We’ve explained it to them before but the hostility hasn’t changed one bit. I’ve learned to just ignore it pretty well so I’m not really worried about that. I’m just wondering why is this so frowned upon, especially by the older generation?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Miserable-Recipe-629 on 2023-10-01 12:23:26.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ConsiderationLost950 on 2023-10-01 09:10:37.

I (31M) am married to a doctor (31F). We have been together a long time. Her most recent job (joined a year back), has given her a promotion, but also a lot of work. Even though she's supposed to have a set amount of work hours, she's always working extra because of some emergency. She tells me that everyone in the department has the same issue, but I feel like because she's the youngest, they take advantage of her and give her the worst schedule possible.

She agrees to this but she's never been the confrontational kind, so she can't say anything or even bring this topic up. Meanwhile, we barely get any time together as she's overworked. She also does a lot of night duties which entail staying up most of the night and I feel like this is severely affecting her health as she's quite unable to recuperate that sleep once she comes back. If she was working her normal hours, her night duties wouldn't be so much an issue. For example, she has done 4 night duties back to back (night duty on day 1, day 2 off, night duty on day 3) which means she's slept every alternate night. I really worry about how this is going to affect her health.

We are happy with her pay, so that's not an issue. But I genuinely don't know what to do in this situation. I want to take charge and tell her what's right or wrong, but I feel like it's better if I stay out of her work life.

What should I be doing?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/aging-graceful on 2023-10-01 04:46:30.

Went with my wife to a clothing optional beach at the end of summer. I thought I'd be quite the natty dresser...or undresser...and trim up nice and short and neat down there before going.

But imagine my surprise when I see that most guys there were completely shaved...and I mean every inch.

Is this a trend that I've missed someow?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Abigkiwi on 2023-10-01 06:37:44.

After moving to Canada I heard someone use the phrase “F*cking the dog” to mean not doing much. Reeeeally takes you by surprise if you don’t know that though

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/algulumvergulum on 2023-10-01 05:04:37.

Would that be legal?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Critical_Carpet8826 on 2023-10-01 01:12:41.

I'm a 21y female, and I've been dating this man for 6 months and the first couple of months it seemed we were made for each other, we would spend hours just talking about random stuff, spend A LOT of time together and I really just loved being around him. I still do, actually. I developed some serious feelings towards him over time, as one would expect would happen, but it doesn't seem to be both ways.

We started growing apart recently, as I realized I was not receiving much love or respect from him. He never initiates physical contact, hugs, kisses, holding hands etc. unless I do, we do not even touch. And I crave his touch. We have not exchanged the ilys even though I have the biggest need to do it. I never wanted him to feel pressured into anything and I dislike the idea of him saying it back just for the sake of saying it back. I would love to simply be loved by him.

He does not give me any compliments whatsoever, doesn't seem to be interested in anything I'm doing, either. For example, I've been writing and publishing my work and even though it's our shared field of studies and interest he does not even ask what I am working on, let alone ask to read it. We watched a number of TV shows he was interested in watching but we never even started that one show I wanted to show him.

He does not perform acts of service, nor does he give gifts, never have I received anything from him. So I can confidently say he doesn't express love in any of the love languages. I just recently became aware of this and it shuttered me because I love this man.

I brought the issue up on a number of occasions. For example when I was about to leave the town to my parent's house for like 20 days (I am still not back because I am literally not ready to face him) I waited and waited for him to tell me he'll miss me but it never happened so I asked 'Aren't u gonna miss me' and he said, and I quote 'WELL IT'S GIVEN'. I explained that nothing is given and that I do not want to assume, I need to be told and shown things and he just said I'll miss you. I was sure he'd get the hint, but nothing changed after that. I also tried explaining that I love compliments and genuine interest but he doesn't seem to change anything in his behavior.

The last attempt was the moment a couple days ago when i was so depressed because of his lack of interest that I texted him I didn't feel loved or supported. He said he noticed we were growing apart and he said he's sorry I felt that way. And that's it.

I thought of straight up telling him I loved him so desperately, because I do. I wanted to tell him everything I've been feeling for past month but I fear he will simply adjust to my words, start complimenting me and say that he loves me back without meaning it. I think he's with me just because I offered him a chance and is too comfortable and taking everything for granted. I don't think he loves me.

What do I do?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/4thNonBlonde8888 on 2023-10-01 04:53:43.

21F and due to bf’s work I have to travel to lots of formal events and I always feel like I’m being stared at. I’m so sorry if this seems like a humble brag… But I just wanna know if it’s socially acceptable for me to copout and just wear boring unrevealing outfits everywhere…

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/FourteenFCali_ on 2023-10-01 04:10:16.

I was at the dentist yesterday and I was doing the whole awkward sitting around staring anywhere but at the dentist thing when this weird gaze into the abyss thing happened where I wondered if anyone had ever licked their dentists fingers before interntionallu or unintentionally

Sorry about the run on sentence it’s the wine

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/SteadfastEnd on 2023-10-01 02:53:56.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Brilliant_Air3016 on 2023-10-01 02:11:05.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Active-Mud2563 on 2023-09-30 22:46:24.

My wife is cheating on me with our pastor. She has moved everything out, and the pastor sent me a long text. He apologized for my hurting, that he is going to resign from the church on Sunday, and then shared with me that he and my wife are going to start their own church. He has offered to pay me $10,000 for my troubles, said that the divorce will be smooth, and that he’s going to get me set up with a new life. he said he just wants me to be discreet and peaceful, and he wants to be humble and at peace. He asked me not to contact my wife again and said that there’s nothing else to be sad. I still want to go to counseling and get some answers about why this all happened in the first place. What should I even do it this point?

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/BerryBabe_Official on 2023-09-30 23:44:07.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/dfgtghhhf on 2023-09-30 22:19:16.

I’m 20f and I’m not asexual, I just don’t see the point. I went a majority of my life single (by force because I had strict parents) and realized maybe they have a point. I don’t want to be shackled down by one man, and I can get companionship from friends. If I get horny, I can use vibrators.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Mediocre_Chair3293 on 2023-09-30 21:49:40.

I'm asking because there's a lot of chatter going on about a 14 year old girl that has announced a pregnancy at the middle/highschool, but allegedly refuses to say who the father is. I've been attending my nephew's football practices and it's all the parents have been talking about. The mother and father in particular are very disappointed and angry, stating that they're going to budget what she needs to survive and nothing else. Their hope is that they'll be able to force CPS to take her child away on the ground that she can't financially support him/her. "The Law can force us to take care of our kid, it doesn't say anything about taking care of HER kid."

After not-so-subtly asking my nephew's side of the situation, apparently the girl is playing chicken with her parents, claiming that by law, since she's their child, they have to take care of her child since she's a minor, and that they'll breakdown once the baby is born and help her.

I know I'm too old to be fascinated by this type of teen drama, but I can't but wonder if the parents are actually legally responsible for their grandchild on account of their daughter still being a minor.

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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ConsiderationFar9325 on 2023-09-30 20:06:40.