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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/ConsiderationLost950 on 2023-10-01 09:10:37.
I (31M) am married to a doctor (31F). We have been together a long time. Her most recent job (joined a year back), has given her a promotion, but also a lot of work. Even though she's supposed to have a set amount of work hours, she's always working extra because of some emergency. She tells me that everyone in the department has the same issue, but I feel like because she's the youngest, they take advantage of her and give her the worst schedule possible.
She agrees to this but she's never been the confrontational kind, so she can't say anything or even bring this topic up. Meanwhile, we barely get any time together as she's overworked. She also does a lot of night duties which entail staying up most of the night and I feel like this is severely affecting her health as she's quite unable to recuperate that sleep once she comes back. If she was working her normal hours, her night duties wouldn't be so much an issue. For example, she has done 4 night duties back to back (night duty on day 1, day 2 off, night duty on day 3) which means she's slept every alternate night. I really worry about how this is going to affect her health.
We are happy with her pay, so that's not an issue. But I genuinely don't know what to do in this situation. I want to take charge and tell her what's right or wrong, but I feel like it's better if I stay out of her work life.
What should I be doing?