voytek709

Beklager det tilfeldige spørsmålet, jeg laget et fellesskap på norsk for LHBT-personer og jeg bestemte meg for å spørre her fordi jeg vet at andre steder på Lemmy snakker engelsk/snakker ikke norsk.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/39838089

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Jeg er Voytek. Jeg er eieren av dette fellesskapet og jeg er ikke-binære og bifile

Jeg lærer fortsatt norsk men jeg elsker språket

Hi Aurora, I got your message that you made this. Can I moderate this one?

This community serves to be similar to Internationale except you can post almost anything and connect with people who speak different languages.

To add more lightheartedness to this community, I’m so excited for my friend Karl to not be sick so I can see him.

(I may not know if he likes me or not, and he may act a little strange, but I know he likes me as a friend and that’s great!)

I’m 18nb but amab, guy I like (Karl) is 18M and quite religious.

He seems to be fine with LGBT and makes a lot of gay jokes (he flirts with all his friends except me, save the one time he said I was cute) but also has a religious family + culture and internalized homophobia.

He calls the guys his boyfriend/hubby and the girls his girlfriend/wifey as a joke. He also calls them hot or smacks their butt/holds their hand (consensually) but seems shyer/less willing around me.

I know he’s not straight because he went out with a guy, so I at least have some sort of chance with him.

Anyway, regardless of whether or not he actually likes me, he was very reluctant to admit it to his now ex-boyfriend, and with religious parents and internalized homophobia, I’m not sure how to follow through if I do confess.

There’s this guy I’m friends with (18M) and he flirts with all his friends and jokes around with them, except for me.

He certainly doesn’t hate me. He sits by me, talks to me, asks me questions, and smiles when he sees me. He also considers me a friend.

We were talking about foreign languages together, and he brought up that I want to learn their language to his family :)

He’s also in some Honors classes that I’m not in, so he helps me with the work, and I help him in return with English (literature).

Maybe it’s just awkward for him?

I should perhaps add that I don’t have many classes with him, and the classes I do have with him, I’m quite shy (but working on it). He also appears to have slight internalized homophobia with a religious family. (So he’s fine with LGBT but is homophobic towards himself and denies it.)

Obviously, he’s fine with making gay jokes and secretly dated a guy (only his friends knew) but he was very shy and discreet about it. I should probably also add that even though he usually flirts with his friends (because of this, some of his exes thinks he’s into them despite treating most people like this), he seemed to be more serious/shy and less flirty with his partners (especially the guy), with a shy “I love you” sometimes.

Despite me being nonbinary, I’m AMAB and therefore most people see me as male, though I’m not sure about him (I haven’t come out to him yet as im fine with any gender/pronouns but several people have referred to me with they or she and he was in the vicinity.)

I was going to make a community like this on Lemmy, it’s like if someone had the username shitballs69 but posted actual helpful advice

lemmy.ca, my instance, is the only one I can load. When I try to browse other Lemmy instances, it just shows a white screen or says my browser can’t open the page.

Everyone is different. Some people who are non binary but lean/present as feminine might use feminine words, but others I’ve seen use the masculine because they think modifying the grammar is complicated.

I personally use the gender-neutral modified language, like using elle in Spanish.