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Sorry you lost your fiancé, that’s awful.
I still don’t agree that finding common ground over grief or any other aspect of the human experience is a bad thing.
Sure when the man on the bus told you he lost his daughter if you had said “you think that’s bad, wait til you hear what I lost” that would be totally inappropriate. Telling him “I also lost someone close to me and know the pain and emotional turmoil that causes” is completely appropriate and is very human.
Trying to figure out if were Indian as in India or Native American since your comment can be interpreted both ways
I haven’t battle tested them yet with something like a beach day yet, I’m just using it for day to day stuff as a preventative measure. I understand what you mean, though, it seems to thin to be trustworthy for sure.
I’ve had the same problem with sunscreens until I switched to mineral ones, but not all of them are made equal of course. Most are thick pastes that don’t blend well and leave a white cast look. Then I found out about Asian gel sunscreens on a recent trip and it’s been a game changer! They blend instantly and are sooo much better than anything you can buy in the west. I’m currently using “Skin Aqua Super Moisture barrier UV Gel” which is the best spf 50+ I’ve ever tried. It’s also in a cute little bottle that I can keep in my backpack all day.
Not just that but it gives me hope when I find wholesome communities online
I’d recommend going with Command strips, you can get them for pretty cheap at pharmacies (some times) and hardware stores. They stick on the wall like nobodies business and velcro your paintings on. The best part is no holes or paint damage to repair when you move out!
Interestingly I’ve found that the older we get, the more we are able to think back on our childhood and examine the behavior of our parents. I think this peaks in our 30s.
Sometimes we change, sometimes our friends change. We outgrow people all the time. I think if we were to strip out the complications of your story (trans, poly, surgery, your move) and just look at the human element, people you were close with said they didn’t want to be around you anymore, then your left with a clearer picture.
This is hard, but it’s now a common story that anyone can empathize with and understand. This has happened to me before too, I lost two close friends in the span of a month. I took the time to introspect on my behavior which helped me understand if this was a freak coincidence or something about me that I should understand and fix.
The worst thing you can do for yourself is label yourself a victim and engage in self-pity. Don’t tell yourself these people cut ties with me because of XY&Z circumstance going on in my life right now, or XY&Z label I identify as. Doing so would block your ability to learn from this event and all but guarantee you experience it again in the future.
Introspection is hard and can be quite painful but it’s absolutely the key to become a better person. Stay strong, you got this!
Well not by their definition