I moved two servers from Ubuntu to Debian after Bookworm released, and the graphs on my management server were interesting. Suddenly running 30% fewer background daemons and much less memory usage with the same workload.
If snapd was pulling from an open-source backend it wouldn't be as concerning for me on a desktop. I still might prefer flatpak, but as you say, there are conveniences. My laptops and desktops are on openSUSE and Fedora to have more up to date software in the repos than Debian.
But for a server I see no need for snaps at all. And yes, it's not difficult to remove snapd, but why bother when I can just run Debian. If I wanted a support contract from Canonical then it might be worth messing with it. But I'm just selfhosting at home.
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