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Which was the fashion at the time.

I was at cat lounge/rescue/adoption place in my area recently (not to adopt, just to pet the cats) and one of the cats, a maybe ~7mo female tabby with a slightly fucked up ear named Maggie, after spending most of the time I was there hiding in a corner, decided she liked me, came up to me, sat down on my lap, and refused to budge. One of the staff members came up to say "hey man you're at your time limit, but I can see you're in a situation here so just... whenever is chill"

Definitely! Since we haven't gone all the way yet, there's an element of suspense and anticipation, you know? Delayed gratification.

Well, I figured since it was Thanksgiving... 🤷‍♂️

So the same girl from last week who I made out with at a bar came over on Friday, we made cocktails, she was having some shoulder pain so I gave her a massage with some Tiger Balm, which seemed to help, and then I discovered that she gets extremely turned on by having her ears licked, as well as by nipple play, and also by me regularly reaffirming that we're not going to do anything before she's ready to, because consent is sexy. As such, we stayed partially clothed and there was no penetration, but there was plenty of making out, groping, and grinding.

I have a couple of days off this week, including Thursday, and both of our families live far away, so I asked if she'd like to get together on Thanksgiving so she could make like a turkey and get stuffed, and she said that sounded hot. Will report back with an update next week.

I can relate to getting frustrated with nobody cuddling you. I recently started seeing someone after being touch starved for what seemed like a really long time, and it's such a relief to finally have someone you can be intimate with, even if it's only platonic (if that makes sense, which I think it does). Makes a huge difference. People say you need to learn to be happy with yourself because no one else can make you happy, but if the reason you're unhappy is because you're starved for physical contact, then...

You know, you might just be on to something. He sure didn't seem like he was particularly into it.

yeah like why can't people just get married if they want to get married, or not get married if they don't want to get married? has never made sense to me

I don't. Maybe I should. I have housemates who use the garage for their actual cars, so I do feel like I'm trusting them to keep the garage door closed, but then again, one of them works from home, so he usually keeps an eye on things. Also, my neighborhood is like super dead, basically nothing ever happens there.

Might not be the worst idea, though.

Best way to cure yourself of this is to become a teacher in your field, especially if you do any teaching of anybody who isn't already specializing in it (K-12 or for-non-majors college classes). I'm a music teacher and yesterday I had a kid struggle for a full half hour to play a kick drum on a consistent quarter beat. Literally all you have to do is lift your foot up and put it back down again, but at one point he actually asked me "when I pick my foot up, it keeps hitting the bit of the kick pedal above it and that's throwing me off" and I had to explain to him that he could move his foot half an inch backward and that would stop happening, because apparently he was unable to intuit that. Didn't seem to help him all that much, though.

He was also wearing running shoes with the laces taken out, which leads me to believe that this is not the only basic thing this ten-year-old child struggles with.

Sorry, I know this isn't geology related, but I needed to rant about it.

Yeah, I just try not to be agate-keeper.

The person I've started seeing from Hinge in recent days told me that the biggest reason she rolled with my profile was because I seemed like I was "relatively normal" and not a techbro or finance bro. Apparently this is prevalent enough around here that for someone who's not into it, a profile that features a dad joke about the members of punk and metal bands standing really far apart because "your band width determines your speed," offers "Live Without at an abandoned Denny's in Houston" as an option for a past event to time travel to, and lists "worker ownership of the means of production" as a "simple pleasure" qualifies you as "normal."

But hey, that in turn means I'm not attracting the kinds of girls who go for techbros, which I see as an absolute win.