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I can't discount this very valid point :D

I'm sure the more cultural anthropologist types will have a more eloquent way of stating it, but the US has a hard time escaping it's religious background, which views nudity as a gateway to sexuality, so people "must remained covered".

And in the same way, if men are naked around each other, people are afraid of it being seen as a sexual thing. I mean non sexual nudity doesn't really exist in "standard spaces" in my part of the country anyway.

And man, if an adult and young person were naked near each other, someone would call the cops!

I think Hollywood sexuality is exactly that, escapist fiction. The US is actually a pretty sexually repressed place.

You can sit around any bar and say "oh that girl is hot, I'd love to fuck her!" But you would get looks you'd get if you said "oh that girl is hot, I'd love if she pegged me!"

Maybe it's changing, but it doesn't really feel like it to me.

The technical term for this is called a collective noun in English. I did some quick googling, which unfortunately returned a ton of AI slop that I won't repost here. But it did return tons of answers.

My thought is, your school probably did teach you it was called a Whisper, but who's to say what's the authority on collective nouns.

I believe truly having no empathy would make it impossible to form anything other than surface level friendships.

The only precious resource I own is my time, and who I spend it with. The thing in life that makes the hard times seem not so bad, and the good times twice as good, is spending with people I care about, and people that I know care about me.

To be pathological about it... My asking questions about you IS a means to an end. It gives a few useful things:

• I learn about you
• I learn about your worldview, I learn what motivates you
• and I learn where you tend to sell yourself short so I know how to encourage you

Talking about yourself is "giving" when only you share vulnerability. 1 word answers is keeping your guard up. Asking about them is "giving" because you get opportunities to learn about/support/uplift them. People like getting questions. It can make them feel cared for.

And I'm not saying anything is wrong with you. Just sharing my perspective.

And I'm a guy, so I guess you'd really be puzzled if we met IRL!

I was just in a group setting where 3 people who all had a tendency for "same sex attraction" described themselves differently.

One individual strongly preferred the term queer.

The second identified as pan because they liked the flag more than the bi flag, but admitted that bi might be a better fit for them.

The third indentified as bi.

The discussion of accurate terminology could be helpful in some settings, but... In casual settings, or even when negotiating intimacy with other people, what YOU mean by the term means more than the term itself, and you are not out of place by feeling "generally fuzzy" on usage.

This is challenging to read as a human. And I know I'm not the only one. So if we can't work out all the letters... no way a computer could either. I liken it to the idea that if I type out "detialed", spell check can suggest "detailed", but if I write "ditaled" it's not going to know.

When adult men using the urinal allow their pants to fall down around their ankles while peeing

We've been called out, but deservedly so.

I second this. Fastmail has been a joy to use. Since the users are paying, the company has (less) incentives to enshittify. JMAP? Count me in!

This was such a helpful little example, thank you! Like a peek into another world.

Am I crazy? I'm seeing a github page with commits from 6 days ago. When you unmaintained what do you mean, like no new features?

With such sharp, acidic wit, you might say the prose is... Lemony.