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Having lived there for almost 10 years, most of it as a "local", they also have a very real problem of foreigners coming there and destroying apartments or racking up debt and just leaving.

There's more going on obviously, like the xenophobia you mention, and just straight up racism, and probably other things. So it's a little more than just a cultural problem but that is a decent chunk of it.

I'm curious about the stick drift thing.

I have 3 controllers, two of which I've had since maybe 6 months after the PS5 was released since that's about how long it took me to get one.

Both controllers have a few hundred hours on them, neither have stick drift. The third one doesn't have nearly the amount of hours on it since my kid spilled juice on it and I procrastinated for a few months to take it apart and clean it lol so I'm not considering that one.

Is it really that bad or did I just get lucky? These things are almost 4 years old and still work perfectly fine.

Just a note for those interested in the local play aspect of it like I was.

You don't need to create an account to play the game locally.

You can just exit out of the first menu and play the scenarios that are available.

My kid starts kindergarten soon. I have already coached them on how to handle those situations.

This probably isn't the best solution for a lot of reasons but I don't really care because of how I grew up getting the shit kicked out of me, and it only stopped once I started fighting back.

I have told them if they get hit or bullied physically, to grab the other kid and beat them in their face as hard as they can.

It happened once in daycare where another kid tried to put mine into a headlock, my kid retaliated in kind and started punching the other kid in the face until they got separated.

Obviously this isn't the best solutions but schools, as we see, don't punish bullies as often as they should and the receiver of the bullying gets punished instead. I have been on the receiving end of this myself, even when I didn't fight back.

I'm willing to go to court over this, and have the means to fight it if I needed to. Which kinda helps my decision to teach my kid what I have.

Now, all of that being said I have absolutely taught them that the first option no matter what is to try to walk away and find a teacher if you haven't been physically attacked yet.

It IS 100% THE SCHOOLS RESPONSIBILITY to handle these situations. If this is the second time, then you need to get the administrators involved if they haven't been already. If they have, then ask them what they are going to do to ensure that the situation is handled and doesn't happen again.

If it happens again after that, go above the local administration to the school board. Do some research find out who the chain of command is and start following it up if necessary. Try to make communication over email, or document everything, have a paper trail, ask for copies of the procedures they are taking, make them physically provide you with an outline or plan of what they are going to do. Put their backs up against a wall so they understand that you are determined to hold them accountable for how they handle the situation.

I know the other child may not have the best situation, but you unfortunately don't know if that is or isn't the case, and your priority is your child first. It can be a bit painful to think about, but the reality is that you want to protect your child.

But for the extreme situations, teach or have someone teach your child how to defend themselves.

I was considering that, but was reluctant to do it without any advice since I don't know enough about the Deck and how it works other than it runs on a variant of Arch.

After your comment I did try it and it worked.

Thank you!

On a bus from El Paso to Phoenix someone smoked a joint in the bus bathroom and got dumped on the side of the highway immediately after.

Two hours later on that same bus trip the bus got raided by immigration and I got into an argument with the officer that wouldn't accept my ACTIVE, UNEXPIRED Military ID as a valid form of ID and started yelling at me for my passport (I have a Spanish last name). I threw my passport at him and told him to fuck off before I got my command group involved with his. I don't know how that worked but he got real quiet and left me alone immediately after that lol. There were several people that were pulled off of that bus that night. It was overall pretty shitty.

Did you read the article?

He was already a special needs student with an apparently individualized education program. This doesn't sound like a "Why now?" Situation. It sounds a bit like there may be more going on, especially since the school district declined to answer when questioned about it.

You may be right that it's probably not the first sign of aggression but he's also autistic with other issues. Do you know how expensive it is to get help, how our healthcare/insurance system preys on people to take their money rather than help them, and the likelihood of this family maybe not being able to help more than they already were?

I feel sorry for the person that he hurt, but this is a mentally ill black kid getting tossed in prison because of a mental illness. Which is going to ruin him just like you said.

The judge saying he showed no remorse is bs used to paint this kid in the worst light. Well no fucking shit he showed no remorse, if he's got a bunch of mental problems that would make sense. I knew a kid growing up that was similar, he was extremely strong and even the slightest thing could set him on a rampage. His parents drained everything they had into helping him, but it wasn't enough. When the insurance stops paying what are you going to do?

I'm not saying that nothing should be done but there's more to this than "parents failed the kid with mental disabilities".

Edit: just realized you said US based. Tuta is not US based so that might not work for you. Sorry about that.

Tutanota (now just Tuta) allows you to use your domain. I use it, it doesn't support external clients (Outlook, Thunderbird, etc.) but they do have Android, Linux, Windows (maybe Mac too) clients.

It's also cheap.

I've been using it for a few years now, it works for me.

You can get a free account to check it out first and if you like it just upgrade to get the personal domain usage and increased storage limit.

Yeah, it sounds like some reform to the process should be made.

I don't necessarily disagree with having child welfare involved, just how they handle things might be a bit (or a lot) on the iffy side.

This is where you get to an impasse though, the procedures are possibly (I say possibly because I don't know the history there) the way they are because people complained of not getting enough help, so the rules were changed to become more involved to better protect those needing help. Now it's too much so people are up in arms again.

So often victims of domestic abuse go back to that situation, whether it be fear, love, pain, or whatever other reason there is. There is a reason for "but we simply don't trust you to stick to that decision".

There isn't a cut and dry solution to problems like this. It doesn't really matter which direction they go, there will always be people screaming about not doing enough, or doing too much etc.

They may be legally required to tell the abuser what is going on... I mean, how can you serve a no contact order without telling the accused.

There is a ton of work to unfold here, so many things that are in place for a reason, as unreasonable as it may seem. It will always be a work in process with such sensitive situations.

I'm from the States and have spent a more than a decade living in other countries, and have had plenty of time to see how people around the world interact with their (and other people's) children. I have to agree with you that this really doesn't seem like a big deal.

It looks really bad from a western perspective, especially for people that have no understanding of other cultures.

Do I agree with it, no. That's just my personal preference though. He didn't backhand, punch, or otherwise harm the child, and the child didn't even seem phased by it.

Had he done this in a country other than Turkey it may be newsworthy, this just seems like rage bait.

So why can't we call this what it is.

An attempt at election interference and throw his ass in prison for treason. For such a high profile person it should be considered no less.