With the clicking etc it sounds like a mechanical failure?! A harddrive has several disks "platter"s stacked inside and multiple heads inside. They don't necessarily all fail at the same time. Also sometimes there are just small areas affected that become inaccessible due to various reasons. They'll probably grow at some point and you're bound to loose more data. But if it's an area of several consequtive blocks, it'll show when you're accessing those. And if your partitions and data are arranged serially, the next one might be physically stored where everything is still fine.
rufus
joined 2 years ago
13 word summary by me: There is a lack of research on the implications of human AI relationships.
(And your 30 words are 42.)
Maybe steal a commercial airplane and go on a joyride. Do a barrel roll like the one guy did in 2018. Then empty my bank account or somehow aquire some money to get a few escorts and hookers and whoever wants to join, have a nice dinner and spend the night together. I suppose a nice swinger club with a good buffet will also do.
Oh wow. I don't know what to say... I can see how that'd mess you up. I'm not sure if that's something a person can even cope with, without any professional help. I think all things aside (you, your relationship, other trauma from the past...) just this severe accident and the serious trauma that goes along with it is clearly enough to talk to a professional and get help to even begin processing it properly.
Some more reasoning: I think most people agree that bottling it all up isn't a healthy strategy in the long run. Maybe your husband can agree to that. And opening up to you is nice and the right thing to do, but I suppose in the end you're not an expert and don't have the means and background to provide him with tools to handle severe trauma. Talking to a professional is probably unavoidable.
And he shouldn't have a false/unhealthy pride/ego and stubbornness... People tend to treat therapy differently... But in the end he should ask himself if he'd go to a doctor if he were to break his leg. And if that's any different to this situation. He's also been in an accident, just that his main injury isn't a physical one. But still, it's an injury and there's doctors specialized on that. And not every injury heals by itself. Plus, it's not his fault he ended up in that situation (which could be a reason to think it's also his business to deal with it on his own.) Instead it was an external factor happening to him, and there's no shame in needing external help with things that are beyond our control.
I can see how that'd weigh down on your relationship. Glad you made it. And it must have been hard for you since you had to deal with it yourself and were right in the middle of it all. That's not a comfortable situation to also handle relationship issues and how other people experience grief. You needed to grieve yourself, deal with the situation, somehow make sense of it, get your life back... and that's bound to take months or years. From your text, I'd conclude you made some progress in the meantime, because you're now in a place where you're able to focus on your relationship and your desire is to also help him.
he doesn't have other people that he trusts like that, so he just doesn't open up unless it's with me [...]
I can fully empathize with that. That description also fits me very well. I don't know why, but somehow it's really really hard to open up about the real emotions, innermost fears and desires. I see how some other people can speak about their feelings, or just talk to friends and get their advise on relationship issues (which we all have.) But somehow I can't. I'm better at opening up to my partner, and I put some effort in to learn how to do it right. But still: It's hard. Some people suggest it has something to do with being a man, and the cultural expectations and stereotypes that go along with that. Some people also suggest it has to do with upbringing and if you learned that in early life... I don't have an answer to that. I've had a nice childhood, understanding and open parents and siblings. I don't have any issues with my manliness... Still I struggle to talk about my innermost feelings, even with the person I value and respect the most.
I really hope you can figure out a way. I think the analogy with going to a doctor when you're physically injured is a valid one. That's the argument on a rational level. And I'd also include the emotional level. Speaking from my perspective, difficulty to express own feelings doesn't mean you're unable to fully empathize when it's the other way around. To me it matters a lot if my partner says something is affecting her. Or she thinks I'm doing something wrong or I need to work on myself. And it's a different thing when it's about emotions than when we're arguing on a factual level. It doesn't always lead to change. Sometimes I'm unable to escape who I am, even if I wanted to. But I think the (emotional) arguments get through to me more than she thinks. Ultimately we're all humans and have our individual limitations. And our partners need to accept us including those. But you seem to at least need an explanation what's holding him back and why he wouldn't get treatment for his mental injuries. And if he sees your perspective on that.
(Maybe there are a few other tricks, depending on personality. For some people it's easier to write something down than to talk about it. If that's the issue.)
Hmm. It was more an impulse. But I like your explanation better. I'd like to go with that... Maybe that'll be my thing from now on, instead of writing "Anti AI-License" underneath my posts as some other people here do.
There are very few countries where torrenting is safe. Generally speaking: No. You can try file hosters or other platforms, or share a VPN with a friend or use services similar to a VPN. AFAIK there is not alternative that's as fast and convenient as Torrent, though.
Idk. There have been some sites recommending the alternative to a subreddit. I scrolled through that. And put keywords for my interests into the search bar. Occasionally I spend some minutes scrolling through the 'All' feed and subscribing. Or when somebody links a crosspost. Over time I've also unsubscribed from lemmy.ml communities because I don't agree with their moderation practices. Found alternatives to that. And I've unsubscribed from most of the news communities, because reading about world politics is weighing me down and this place (Lemmy) is a lot about discussing the news.
I'm subscribed to roughly 100 communities now. Some of them are duplicates or a wasteland, that's just how it is. But I like that this way, my feed is somehow tailored to my interests. And there is no doom-scrolling any more, which I like too.
And the "he's likely the abusive part" is chinese whispers. He told that to your friend. And maybe heard that from his ex who supposedly heard that from her therapist. That's a long chain. Could be true. Could be his ex manipulating him or being angry, could be him manipulating your friend. Or a misunderstanding.
I just watch subscribed communities. To me that's just too much noise. So I haven't blocked any.
4π
German, English, a tiny bit of French since I had that in school but forgot most of it. And a bunch of computer programming languages.