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It was hard, selfless work reading through all those smutty romance novels, but somehow I managed

I’ve found that with fewer people it’s easier to fallow along and tell what people are saying

::: spoiler sex, discussion of brainworms Reading the same romance novels that cishet women read has completely eliminated any lingering concerns I had about autogynephilia. I don’t even mean cis lesbians, I’m talking about books written by and for cishet women.

Here’s a list of some of the things I’ve seen. Keep in mind that this isn’t some niche thing, this all from mainstream, lowest common denominator trash ~~(because I’m a basic bitch with no taste)~~

• multiple instances of characters fucking in front of a mirror, with the female character thinking about how hot it is to watch herself get fucked. This treated as being only mildly kinky
• virtually every book that isn’t closed-door (i.e. has sex scenes) will feature at least one sex scene from the male character’s perspective
• virtually every book will have scenes from the guy’s perspective where he ogles the woman
• getting boudoir photos done for herself while pregnant
• “I appreciate the female form. I even find my own boobs attractive”
• *gestures broadly at the works of Tessa Bailey*
• countless, countless instances of stuff like wearing lingerie, getting dressed up, or wearing sexy outfits just to feel sexy that don’t stand out and aren’t even remarkable because they’re just that common

As it turns out, wanting to feel sexy and desirable and having that as a turn-on is incredibly normal and common among cis women. Finding yourself attractive is seen as a sign of confidence and self-love, as it should be. “Autogynephilia” is really just another attempt by patriarchal society to pathologize and stigmatize female sexuality. It’s the same phenomenon of men objectifying women, and then, fearing the power their desire gives women over them and seeking to maintain their dominance over women in a kind of Hegelian master-slave dialect, respond by demonizing women who take agency in their sexuality: women are to be pure and passive recipients of the sexual desires of men, and women who don’t play along, and especially wlw who find sexual fulfillment without men, are demonized as unnatural, “crazy”, predatory, and fallen. Blanchard basically just projected his madonna-whore complex onto a group of women marginalized enough for him to get away with it despite his pathetic transparency.

Yeah, I was thinking of making a post on it later today, but having grown up with these anxieties about not really being trans and it being just a fetish and then reading romance novels and seeing the sort of stuff cis women fantasize about was wild.

blanchardism

Also, it’s not just that he has no idea about women, his theory for HSTS trans women was that they were too femme to ever be desirable to gay men so they transitioned to sleep with straight men instead, since gay men heavily prefer masc partners which is just . Like this mf has literally never heard of a twink before. Like he saw a tom of finland painting once and went “ah yes, this is the gay male experience”

Underrated prog experience: waking up in a daze thinking about B O Y S

As someone who reads the same romance novels that cishet women read, can confirm that “AGP” is just the same old pathologization of female sexuality that’s been going on forever

I also started talking from an extremely early age and used to be hypervocal. I think I eventually shifted to just monologuing to myself in my head

The trouble is, if I don’t give a bit of background, I don’t feel I’ve done an anecdote or vital piece of information justice. Facts don’t just happen in isolation, they happen in context.

When a neurot*pical tries to tell me that RCA’s strategy of aggressively using patent law to establish a monopoly on radio technology in the u.s. during the 20 “isn’t relevant to ‘how was your day?’”

No problem!