Extremely hinged post as usual. Even in light of the transphobia/non apology it is worth pointing out lemmy is one of the only places we can connect and discuss things like DIY hormones without censorship or corporate surveillance.
Lemmy dying for lack of maintenance will not help us in the struggle for equality.
My guy all people want is something like: "Sorry, that message was thoughtless and doesn't reflect my views any more. I was ignorant of the struggles of transgender people and recognise that gender identity and expression does not fit into a neat binary. Trans people are valid."
Yes, that is the only explanation
Well, right now I'm looking at the writings of someone who's imagination is drier than a dead dingos donger.
This is the least insightful thing I've read online this year.
What are you talking about? It's not necessary or even advisable to come up with all your own ideas or develop thinking from first principles.
Ignoring prior art is just sabotaging the quality of your ideas, and it is unhelpful to groups if some members do not educate themselves. If I want to start a farm to feed people the people that are most useful are those that know a bit about growing food.
If you want to change society it is good to listen to the arguments for how and why it might be changed made by other people. Especially those which lots of people who want to change society in similar ways found useful or convincing.
I stopped visiting this instance because the transphobic screeds became too much for me. Someone who doesn't 'get' half of young trans people but just feels being nice to people exploring themselves or ignoring them if they're too much is easier.
Yeah so people tried to kill me before most people even knew what a trans person was. I uh, don't think some people figuring out their identity was to blame for that ya know?
You seem really transphobic, and I really think you should reflect on that. Like you're straight up blaming transgender people for queer oppression but that is predicated on the idea of being going back to behaviours they engaged in long before people even discussed trans people. So clearly the drive to harm queer people doesn't require pronouns to surface yeah?
I am going to block you now because I think you are an odious and horrible person.
You are a dickhead who prefers to hang out in spaces where being a dickhead to people is welcome. That isn't the case at blahaj, there's no reason for you to speak there. You can still read it, and if you want to participate in that culture then you can make a new account and just follow their rules and norms on that account, then be a dickhead about queer people on SJW or whatever with all the little arseholes that will give you a gold star for being "one of the cool queers"
Being rude and belittling people's concerns, calling people that disagree with you little soft children who have never known hardship, saying that people's concerns are less valid than yours, blaming trans kids figuring themselves out for the hatred we receive. All of that if being a complete dickhead and a bigot.
Look I'm a 35 year old queer, I have been beaten within an inch of my life and left to die in a gutter, I have lived through cops murdering us for fun and being unable to hold hands in public to now. Hell my government made me get steralised to recognise my gender and gay panic was only removed from the books as a valid legal defense for murder in like the last decade.
I know that looking at some of the online discourse can seem a little strange or trivial, but that's also what straights have been doing to us for centuries about literally all of our concerns. You don't know what other people are going through, you don't get to be the judge of what matters to them, and even if you think someone is being more sensitive than is warranted THEY HAVE TOLD YOU THAT THIS MATTERS TO THEM AND THAT IS TRUE. Regardless of what you feel about it, IT HURTS THEM. Why do you want to hurt people?
There is no line of acceptable behaviour that will make you welcome among the broader straight culture. Don't beat up on comrades, and if you can't tolerate that kind of culture then being banned from blahaj is doing you a favour because that is the culture there.
Just... log off and check your head mate.
I find these issues so tiring. Lemmy is a project run by volunteers, usually with specific goals in mind.
While I think that more democratic means of administering instances would be good I also can't really see how to implement them and if someone is volunteering to run a server then criticising the precise way they do it, especially when moderator actions are public, seem a bit rich.
Different servers have different goal, some are trying to be public squares like this one, where more voices are welcome than not even to the detriment of some people. Others are trying to be safe cozy spaces, or friend clubs or whatever and someone just not liking your vibe is a fine reason to pre-emptively close the door in your face.
When someone does so they're not even restricting your ability to see things, and usually not even making an account on their instance. You can literally run a bot to mirror everything over to your own version of a community if you don't like the way they administer theirs. All they are doing is restricting your ability to send messages to their userbase under that particular account. Blahaj is going for a certain vibe, it's not a vibe I want so I'm not their and I don't really use their communities but it's very clearly communicated to the userbase and behaviour like this is done specifically so users that feel vulnerable have a place to be gay with like zero confrontation about the particular way they want to be.
So who cares?
I just logged into this one to check this instance. the vtc one has less federation which is good for mental health, bad for large discussions. Also using either vtc or hexbear gets people doing the "ahhh you're a tankie" thing eyerolling I was working with the extremely lib greens party over the election here haha. Anarchists, MLs, and Libs can all call me a traitor!
Been busy, mate went through shit, going back to grad school to change career, local action group started and then died because of flaky people (<3 my anarchist comrades that are so against hierarchy even scheduling is too oppressive haha. Seriously I do although it's very funny and fail).