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That must have been a cool experience. There was/is an r/iwantout that was nice to get some local experience of some expats. I’m sure every place has its pros and cons. Id love to visit more places and get a feel for the culture and lifestyles.

But I agree, making time for just doing something that give you that spark of joy is pretty important. It seems too easy to get sucked into the cycle of bills, life tasks, credit, etc. Does anyone think of that on their deathbed? From I gather, people think of the important people and experiences they have had.

The only major things I would want to add from the list above are text size options (maybe eventually fonts), toggle feed thumbnail left/right/off (use my phone lefty, so having the thumbnail on the right is more convenient), and default feed (subscribed/local/all).

Pretty amped? Probably said “Ohm my God!”

Yeah, because universities are getting to be barely able to justify the cost for people to attend. You can get a tech school degree for 12k and in 1-2 years make 50-80k, or go to a university and pay 50k and still probably make 50-80k after 4 years.

I’m all for people getting a higher education, but we’ve been having this discussion on a few of my university discussion posts; if you apply Maslow’s hierarchy for needs, safety and physiological needs are prioritized before intellectual needs. Shit is expensive now.

And I know a couple of people that work at the university system, most of the 216 job cuts mentioned are faculty (not administrators), but if there are less educators, why are there not less people running the educators needed? Will there eventually just be an university bot that a room full of administrators run?

Sorry, I get a little heated when I see behaviors like this. I wish the government positions that affect these decisions could see the long-term benefits of education instead of the short-term gain of “let’s just cut the budget to make it through this year.”

Spot on, it was a hand plane haha. Stanley 46 plow plane

Yeah I’m hoping it was an honest mistake, but if I don’t get a reply, I definitely want to leave a review about what to possibly expect from the seller.

The seller has high ratings. I guess I’ll just try messaging them for an answer and leave a review about my experience if they don’t respond. I had some bad experiences with eBay in the past and seemed to have gotten better, but this makes me a bit more hesitant again.

It’s a vintage woodworking tool and semi-difficult to find. There are new ones available but are double the price. I’ll just have to try to find another one from a different seller, but I’m kind of upset because I thought it was a done deal.

It is an antique woodworking tool. It was a decent price, that’s why I scooped it. The idea was to buy a vintage one and fix it a little so it was cheaper than a very expensive new one. But many of the vintage ones are approaching new prices.

Well first off, I’m sorry about your mom. I can’t imagine that was easy. And when you said that everything scattered when things got tough, you reminded me of how my “friends” acted similarly when I was going through some stuff. They only seemed to see my struggles as an inconvenience to their own lives. Sometimes friends are only good in certain capacities; like some are good to hang out and some are better at support. These friends might just not have the capacity to support you in the way you are expecting.

And that’s pretty shitty that they offered help and then had a less than welcoming atmosphere. If they offered for you to stay there and then it seemed different when you got there, that’s not really on you. Your friend and his wife maybe have their own disagreements and you just found yourself near them.

I’m not sure if you ever read the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, but it uses the analogy of the “Disappointment Panda,” which goes around telling people the boring truth that no one wants to tell someone. I think that panda would tell you that if you moved cities and find yourself having similar challenges, there is probably something about yourself to change instead. And speaking from my own experience, weed was great for mellowing out, but the problem is over time anxiety can creep in without it. I found myself thinking everyone that was having a close conversation was talking about me, and thinking my friends thought I was mentally challenged because they seemed to treat me differently. Truth for me was that I was acting different because I was high, so it wasn’t them that were acting different, it was me. And people weren’t actually having conversations about me, I was anxious/paranoid because I wasn’t mellowed out.

So I guess the advice would be to recognize that you probably have some thoughts/feelings to explore about your mom passing. Take it one day at a time and try to set small goals; changes that stick will take a slow and steady approach. Take this time as an opportunity to really think about what you want to achieve, and what is most challenging. Try to find a counselor or someone to confide in, even like a free support group.

I hope any of this helps. I know it feels completely stuck, but if you get creative, you find more options than you thought. The first step is thinking things can change.

Damn dude, that’s a lot. That seriously sucks not having people that understand you. I was not fortunate enough to have really anyone else that could understand me for a pretty long time. Are you looking for advice or just want to vent?

Thanks for leading a support group. I love to see more options for people to get support through the human experiences.

I did not realize there is the distinction of Complex PTSD. From reading the description, I would have just lumped them together. For those who aren’t aware like I was, the ICD recognizes CPSTD but the DSM does not yet. This is a pretty in-depth description: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7919312/