liyah27

I am 27 years old and I am a single mother of a 12 year old son (Yes I had him at 15). I have been single for a few years now ever since I left my son’s biological father who used to abuse me physically/sexually. He developed alcohol problems later in our relationship and he could barely keep a job, and he ended up developing extreme anger issues as a result. His abuse was mostly behind closed doors and never in front of my son. A few years later now, he calls me from another number explaining how he finished rehab, meets with a therapist weekly, and meditates every morning. He apologized a ton and he only asked to meet with my son and I in a casual environment to check up on us. (He explicitly said he doesn’t expect me to forgive him). I have not and will never forgive him, nor will I ever re-enter a relationship with him, but he does sound like a different person, so should I meet with him?

I’ve been a single mom for a few years now after getting out of an abusive relationship with my 12 year old son’s biological father. I’m 27 now (Yes I had him at 15), I work 2 jobs, and I take care of my son. Even working 2 jobs, I’m still barely getting by, and sometimes I feel like a terrible mother since I can’t give my child the perfect life he deserves. On top of that, I always come home exhausted from work, and once I’m done making dinner for my kid, I feel beat. It’s like I have no time for myself, or even to just sit down and breathe. I have gotten some support from my parents when it comes to babysitting here and there. Financially I feel stuck, because I couldn’t get a college degree since I was taking care of my son at the time. I haven’t had much luck when it comes to applying to better paying jobs. Dating also feels impossible as a single mom, and I really don’t want to settle when it comes to finding a stepdad for my son. I’m just so exhausted.

Edit: Thank you all for the positivity/advice :)

I’m a young mom with a pre-teen son and he’s called me “mommy” up until he was about 10 and a half. Since then he’s been calling me “Ma” which I find pretty cute. Especially when he extends it to “Maaa” when yelling from another room. Maybe it’s a southern thing lol. Just curious about what y’all call your moms?

I’m a 27 year old single mom with a 12 year old son (Yes I was 15 when I had him) and I got out of a physically/sexually abusive relationship with my son’s biological father a few years ago. I haven’t had any serious relationships since then, but recently I’ve been feeling kind of lonely and exhausted since I work two jobs and take care of my son. I was planning on getting back into dating, so I was wondering if I could get a man’s perspective on how to navigate dating as a single mom since most men aren’t willing to take on my “baggage” (Hate this term). I’ve been hit on quite a few times by men my age in public places when i’m alone on the street or at the gym, but when I tell them I have a kid they seem to be immediately disinterested. (Not necessarily blaming them)

I’m looking for a long term partner who is obviously very willing to take on the task of being a father. Outside of great personal qualities, I’d like someone who can help me financially just enough so I can quit one of my jobs and provide a great life for my son. Sexual compatibility would be a bonus as well lol. I definitely want to make sure they are the one before I bring them home to my son, and I also want to make sure my son is comfortable around them as well. Dunno if I’m asking for too much? I would love some advice from a man’s perspective because it feels like there’s so much to consider. How early do I tell someone about my kid? If they are fine with a kid, are they willing to support me somewhat financially? What if my son doesn’t like them? It feels like I’m asking for so much out of a man that’s already impossible to find.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)

Edit: Thank you all so much for your advice! I just met a single dad at the park while we were watching our kids and he asked me out for lunch. He seems like a good guy, he was playful towards my son, so maybe something can come out of this.

I’m a 27 year old single mother and I have a 12 year old son. Recently he’s been knocking on my door in the middle of the night because he can’t sleep and he asks to sleep with me. I’ve been letting him since neither of us really have a problem with it and it’s kind of nice not having to sleep alone every night. However, I’ve heard and seen some things online that seem controversial about co-sleeping with a child past a certain age. I definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development, so I guess what are your thoughts?

A few years ago I left my abusive ex. Now I’m a 27 year old single mother and my son is 12. I work 2 jobs and take care of my son. Ask me anything.

I’m a single mother of a 12 year old boy and recently he told me he was gonna have some friends over, but he asked me if I could stay in my room while they hangout. After some arguing I did end up staying in my room for the most part outside of bringing them snacks/drinks. I was kind of hurt because I want to be that cool/friendly mom to my son’s friends and I want to get to know who my son is hanging out with. I’m definitely on the younger end for a mother of a 12 year old since I had him extremely early, so I feel like I’d be less embarrassing than other moms. Any time I’ve offered to chaperone for school events, he’s begged me not to. What should I do? Is this just a phase?