frankfurt_schoolgirl

Im sorry I was hostile, but like the situation is that I'm living with someone older than me, who I don't know well, and who feels like it's ok to weirdly try to touch me and get close to me.

Thank you, that was a really nice thing to say. I honestly do have some really wonderful friendships with other trans women that mean so much to me, idk I'm not even sure why this thing in particular has made me so upset.

Imagine if my roommate was a man and you wrote that....

dont discount the horniness of second puberty

What a gross thing to say. She's been on E for 3 years and is older than me btw.

I think you should interrogate that and think about it

I think you should interrogate why you think that was ok to say, weirdo

I had to find a new roommate this spring because my old one moved in with his gf. I thought it would be cool to live with another trans women. It was going to be a good friend, but then she backed out last minute and I went with a stranger. It went well for a while tho, we were friends and would do stuff together, and she was clean and stuff.

But recently, she began trying to touch me. Like sayiyshe was anxious and wanted a hug, leaving me no space when we were on the couch, weirdly putting her head on me. Then she straight up asked me out on a date.

Now besides the obvious issues with dating a roommate, I am not even slightly attracted to her. I don't think we have that sort of connection at all, whatsoever. I guess normally that would be fine, like if someone asks me out but im not interested, I just politely decline. But for some reason, this whole thing has really bothered me.

Part of it is because she's my roommate, so it's awkward. But idk I've also spent a bunch of time helping her with stuff, like getting her on a better HRT regimen, or recommending a place to get her hair cut, or shopping together. I felt happy to do those things because I love helping out other trans women. But idk, now I just feel used I guess. I find myself feeling really annoyed when I see her, and I barely want to talk. I have no idea how to make things right, cause the last four days it has been very awkward.

I wish it was easier to make trans friends in general without there having to be gay drama involved. A good platonic friend seems to me to be worth so much more than another confusing situationship. It's often so hypersexual when I meet other trans girls. Like I wanna hang out and do normal woman stuff, and instead I get invited to the Discord with the NSFW channel, and I'm forced to learn everyone's kinks, and if they hang out it's to try and get in my pants.

It makes me want to only befriend straight girls, but the worst part is that im not even straight. Maybe I just hate myself? Idk I would still never ask out my roommate.

Or maybe it turns out you need a really good solid relationship with emotional intimacy and trust established and THEN and ONLY THEN are you okay with having it used.

This is probably true, and a very nice thought. But honestly I think I just want to be as hot as possible but not have sex with anyone under any circumstances. I think that sounds awesome and good.

I know multiple people like this.

Sex and dysphoria:

Are you injecting valerate? Estradiol valerate has a pretty short halflife in the body, and 10 days is a bit long. You might end up with very low levels by the last day, which would cause mood swings. It's just something to be aware of though, it you feel bad you can switch back to weekly.

this dumb and potentially risky.

The risk is very low, don't worry about it.

I think any of the big exchanges will work if you have an ID and a debit card. You just should move it out of the exchange to store / spend it.

I don't really date cis people, but this makes it sound more appealing. I need to meet some women who will ask me to kiss them and won't except me to have sex like a man. That would be awesome.

Probably fine as long as they're sterile. I got some from Amazon a while ago and it's been ok.