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[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Her: So, you want anything to drink?

Wait are you hitting on them at their place of work, as a customer? Don't fucking do that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Maybe forget "techniques" and be real.

For many people, being playful, like on OP's example, is being real. I'm a playful person. I have generally been a class clown my entire life, and I'd even say it's a pretty core part of my personality and my identity.

I've been married over 10 years, with kids, and I still do this kind of stuff with my wife. I enjoy being silly with my kids, too.

And when I was dating I'd rely pretty heavily on humor for flirting throughout all stages, from meeting a stranger to setting up a first date to being on a date, to going on multiple dates. The other person's laughter was an indicator of whether we were making a connection. And then, later on, I learned that I could expect my partner to be funny too, and actively make me laugh.

Being fun and flirty is a legitimate strategy for making sure you have the opportunity to connect with people. It is, in itself, attractive to some. And it might be unattractive to others, but it's better to be attractive to some and unattractive to others than it is to be forgettable and unnoticed.

If they like you they do, if not who cares?

I think this is a pretty naive way of looking at relationships. Connections require some level of effort, especially in adult life. As much as we'd all love to just naturally have friendships, romantic partners, and other relationships just fall into our laps, that's not really how that works. Most connections require a bit of work to find others, to find commonalities, to develop interest, to have some give and take of making a deeper connection, to have some vulnerability and growth and change as that stranger becomes an acquaintance and develops into someone close.

For younger people, especially under 30, looking for a partner isn't just about looking for someone they like now. It's also someone they want to grow with and experience things together with.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 months ago

The native species may even do better with this loss

Not if the native species are also susceptible to the same cause of death. If that's the case, the European honeybee deaths could be an indicator, correlated with the uncounted deaths of the native species.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

From this summary, The American Health Association still has a very modest recommendation to avoid excessive dietary cholesterol but no longer recommends a daily limit, and notes that foods high in cholesterol tend to be high in saturated fat, which does still show a link to serum cholesterol.

In other words, foods that are high in cholesterol but low in saturated fat (like shellfish, and to some degree eggs) are still fine.

I'd trust the American Heart Association over a video by a doctor who advocates for veganism through his books and media appearances. He seems to me to be more of an advocate (and isn't very open about the fact that nutritionfacts.org is his own marketing website for promoting his specific products). And his books rely partially on data now known to be faulty, about "blue zones" where lots of people live past 100 (turns out each are hotspots for pension fraud so it's hard to actually know how old people actually live in those places).

[–] [email protected] 27 points 4 months ago

The worst she can say is "no"

But the thing is she's not gonna say "no", she would never say "no" because of the implication.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 months ago

This is that meme where the shriveled up dude says "Stop giving me your toughest battles" and Jesus just replies with something like "you literally just have to put the shopping cart back when you're done"

[–] [email protected] 24 points 4 months ago (3 children)

(I must say I disagree completely with that guy sharing messages from his girlfriend- that piece is very weird and a total breach of trust)

My impression from the original post was that kind of stuff was what drove most of the fallout. Leaked off color memes aren't going to ruin people's relationships, but leaked shit talk or breaches of someone else's privacy will.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

The instance admin is literally in this thread acknowledging that their mail server is having issues. Doesn't matter how much effort the users put in if the verification email never goes through.

Seeing that someone is having trouble signing up, and jumping to the conclusion that it's the user's fault, might not even be elitist, just dumb.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Is this the first use of "mex-sickos"? Literally laughed out loud.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

I can change her

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago

Can you please not use that term "Lazy Susan"? It's got racist and sexist connotations, and I'd really prefer you just not call it that.

Who's that racist towards? Susans? That's crazy. Where'd you get that?

Okay. I would just like you to not use the term.

You're right. You know what? It should be...

We should definitely start using the Ambitious Susan.

Yes, yes. Please spin the Indefatigable Susan.

Oh, can we have the Multifaceted Susan my way, please?

Yeah, spin the Industrious Susan.

Ooh, can you spin Ambidextrous Susan, please.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 months ago

We etched special runes onto polished sand so that we control how lightning moves through it, so that it could seem like an intelligent mind of its own.

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