clara

alright, i'll spot you some background info :)

the initial reasoning was that the domain decision would have been a fait accompli for us all - if feddit.uk died, then users would either move to the new instance organized by the same power users, or accept moving elsewhere. as such, it would be a waste of time making a full forum post and spending weeks bickering on (what was) a dying forum, when none of the respondents would have been the ones putting their credit card on the line for it anyway. remember, at this point, there were no admin/mod facilities on feddit.uk - if someone wanted to go absolutely ham on the feddit.uk instance, we would have all be screwed. time was of the essence here

given the speed that things were moving to ensure a smooth transition, something had to give to speed up the process, and so a full community consent was one of those things on the chopping block. there just wasn't enough time for that before we faced full defederation and user exodus, on the initial timeline that was happening. however, a healthy debate was hosted for at least a week at the matrix space, and an approval vote was taken amongst those invested in the discussion, to whittle it down, such that progress could be made. the reasoning being, if a user was enough of an active user to have read all the feddit.uk meta threads that pointed them to the matrix space, and then joined that space to learn more, then they were obviously an invested user. users on feddit.uk were given plenty of pointers and hints to join the matrix space to discuss our future, and as such, it was confident that whatever was chosen through the vote by the matrix users would have had some community buy-in regardless of which option won.

for anyone with concerns about this from a "small cabal chooses a name" standpoint, consider that feddit.uk was decided by just one person. so, 🤷. why care? it wouldn't have been the end of the world even if the domain was picked by executive fiat

domain was kept secret initially to prevent sniping, and secondly to prevent users trying to signup somewhere that wasn't ready, and getting frustrated. i.e, keep it secret until point of no return.

but now? well, now it's not so clear cut at all, lol. i'm thankful we didn't have to go through a community fracture, but there's a lot of work that must be shelved for the time being.

i think we need time for the dust to settle, let our new admins wrangle the website back into compliance with broader federation, and then we can have the identity debate.

when that time comes, i still vote for quackhouse though, absolutely 100%. it's far superior to every other option we raised. 🦆

side note: my suggestion to anyone who wants to say "i dont like it" is to do better than to so easily say "i don't like it", and instead, provide your own damn counter proposal, and then say why yours is better. in the first week of discussion, we had quite a few "i dont like that" voices, and very little constructive "how about this?" voices. justify why your idea is better. 💪

alright, since i'm first up to comment, i'll start with an easy one

tiananmen square massacre denial should probably be banned or removed on sight.

i'm making this suggestion because there is a... particular... audience and demographic in the fediverse that for some reason, has issues with accepting this. i will not name this audience, because this same audience also likes to brigade posters that dare to stick their head up above the trenches and point out that actually, some of their takes might be verifiably wrong. i hope that not naming them reduces my chance of being detected, and then drawing targeted fire. one of us had to be the person to point it out, so i guess it's my turn.

by all means, debate casualty figures, sure. debate why there were protests, sure, that's not the thing i have issue. but if a poster is trying to sincerely argue that nothing happened, in my opinion, it's a strong indiciation that the poster is acting in bad faith

how to implement this as a rule? maybe i would go with "no denial of historically verified massacres"? it sounds obvious really, but if you don't spell it out, people can and will say "ahh but the mods didn't say i can't! 🥴"

i dunno how you want to go about it exactly, but yeah.

there are ongoing back-channel talks to secure release for the israeli "women, children, elderly, and sick" hostages from hamas. hamas in return, wants all 43 palestinian women prisoners, and about 170 palestinian "minor" prisoners (read: children) from israel. other than that, all bets are off. if you're not one of those categories of individuals, then it's good fight, good night.

source: gershon baskin, hostage negotatior, and kind of an unofficial intermediary? (remember, there's no official diplo channels anyway)

because an NT literally cannot handle the truth, i.e the actual, literal truth that you just said. they must dig for an implication or inference.

if you tell them, literally, exactly, "i'm going now because i'm exhausted, talk to you next time" an NT will make an inference, or find a hidden implication, because that's what NT brains do, that's how NT brains talk.

the inference here is "oh, they're exhausted by me, and so they don't like me?? oh noo :(((" when actually, the truth is literally, exactly what you said.

remember, your literal statement runs counter to 99% of their lived NT to NT social interactions, where their inferences do hold true, and if an NT told an NT that "ok, i'm exhausted, i'm going", that actually implies they don't like the other NT. you see what i mean?

these differences in language usage can be explained through the double empathy problem, it's well worth reading into.

so, the tiresome way to explain the truth, every time, is to explain that a) you have autism, b) you can get tired easily by social situations, and c) that it's not their fault. the problem with this approach is that a lot of NT interactions are "throwaway" interactions. classic example is two people walking on a sidewalk, and you both have dogs. you may or may not have to stop and talk to this person for a throwaway interaction, that will last 2 to 5 minutes, and you do not have time in this interaction to explain points a, b, and c. so, for their sake and yours, it's time to mask up! 🥸

this is why you can't "just tell the truth".

furthe reading into the double empathy problem: Source 1, Source 2, Source 3

what's the joke

Allied troops referred to the aircraft as "Baka Bombs".

i think he's making a "pascals wager" type bet on life extension technology. where if he lives long enough to hit a timeframe where they do discover some magical life extension, then he is "saved". therefore, you take every action that puts you towards that goal. if you do hit the magic tech window, then you can have infinite pizza and whatever afterwards.

i do get the rationale behind his decision but my goodness, it's overkill. you could probably achieve 95% of the same "anti-aging" effect he's going for by regular exercise, decent food and good sleep alone. the pill consumption, black sludge and all that; he's asking for a heart attack.

is the extra 5% improvement left on the table really worth up to 75 years of... collecting stool samples and standing in infrared light boxes?

i will join as soon as i have a clear head, i've been travelling for a thing the past 2 days, i need some downtime to get my mind around matrix, lemmy was bad enough lol. i'm aware it's the same sort of fediverse deal. see you all there soon

yep that's the one, all good

he's been quiet for the last 2 months, no response to any messages i sent :(

i hope nothing serious happened