Comparing yourself to others is a sure way to be unhappy. Instead you could compare yourself to your past self.
Over planning can be a problem indeed. You gotta keep it simple and real. I use markdown files (plain text) and vim (text editor).
Habit tracker with all self-care tasks is the way to go for me. I use a template with my daily tasks which is easy to edit. Every day in the morning I add those tasks to my daily tracker and go about ticking each one of it. I have a goal of 6000 self-care tasks per year and with some scripts I can easily track the percentage I've completed. I also use the habit tracker for my hobbies.
Every day I update my habit tracker several times a day and have been doing it for almost 4 years. It has helped me immensely. In the past I felt sometimes it was a chore, but knowing how much I've done through the days help me keep grounded.
I don't know if it will work, but it's possible to tunnel all your traffic through a VPS using SSH and a piece of software called sshuttle.
Journaling is OK but what really keeps me grounded is an habit tracker. Without it my life is pure chaos.
Living one day at a time
password-store is a CLI app to store passwords and even supports OTP.
Whoogle is a meta search (still uses Google search) that takes the bloat off.
Matrix is a decentralized and secure messaging platform.
For email I have a vps (costs less than protonmail) and use Maddy.
There are a few good firefox alternatives, I use waterfox on my phone and floorp on my Linux PC.
Whoogle, a meta-search that strips away all the nasty things from Google. Can't live without it tbh.