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A friend recommended Oat milk to me - I'm exactly the same as you re disliking the sweetness of lactose free - she reckons it's 'inoffensive'.

I try to adhere to T.H.I.N.K

Is it True? is it Helpful? Is it Important? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?

Depending on the situation and the company, I try to check off all 5 and if it doesn't, I won't say it.

It's a good guiding standard that I don't always meet, unfortunately, but I'm only human. If I realise I've missed the K factor later I will apologise.

My friends know me well enough as a know it all, so they're comfortable with making fun of me when I get all unnecessarily gabby on a subject. I'm cool with it.

Is that what you tell the police when they remove you from the bushes?

From my exp, it's asking for validation that what's happening is expected. Also, sometimes the next step is not to click OK as another process may need to happen first.

I'm all good with people asking questions like that. They don't have any intuition about what you're showing them, so they're hesitant to make assumptions and that's ok.

Ergh being an adult woman but still needing a 'real adult' (read: man) to be taken seriously.

Yep. When I was going through extreme tendonitis and also sciatic nerve pain, I made sure I 'looked wealthy' so I wouldn't be accused of drug seeking when asking for pain meds. So dumb.

I recall, years ago, both having a head cold and also persistent pain in my knees. I'd booked a doctor's appointment for the knees; I knew the cold just needed rest and with work being as busy as it was I figured I'd use the time I already had taken off for the bug to get in for my knees.

My partner watched me drag my sad, snotty body out of my track pants and hoody into smart casual clothes, put on makeup, fix my hair. He was like, 'why are you doing that - you're sick, you're going to a doctor, you can look sick.'

I was like, 'yeah, but I need to make sure I'm taken seriously and have the best chance of considered care. You don't get that guarantee as a woman. Got to 'look like' a real patient.'

I think I read a study years ago about it, but I can't find it now. But my own anecdotal experience is that if I dress how I feel, I get worse treatment. The impression I get is they think my thoughts/concerns are hypochondria/Dr. Google nonsense.

If I dress how I would for work - casual professional, I'm seen as an insightful patient with some valid speculation about my problem. Male doctors are the worst but I've experienced it with women too.

It's fucked. It's an obvious privilege too. If you don't work a white collar job and don't have those outfits in your wardrobe, or an interest in wearing makeup or whatever - does that mean you're just always going to get slightly worst treatment than me?

I'm not even getting into the POC aspect, can't even imagine that on top.

Yep, totally. People against guns are notorious for their backwards viewpoints. Venn diagram is so overlayed and round. Totally. Such stereotype, so common.

My countrymen and women did not grow up with gun safety classes, but we did have guns. We got rid of the guns. Weeeeee!

I'm not squabbling. You lot just need to stop pretending owning a gun is an inalienable right, the absence of which would see the sky fall. Absolute muppetry.

☑️Let me know if something big happens.

What're are the guns for though