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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Life is too short to be miserable. You will die the same way unless you take action to course correct and start living more brightly.

bruh

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Been there, sort of. Lifelong depression does tend to make you "negative" and apparently some people hate that. NTs are not necessarily genius communicators who've worked at it a lot, it's just that most people per definition tend to communicate their preferred/"natural" way. This means that whatever is pissing them off is a) not necessarily wrong, b) not necessarily what/why they think it is, and c) something you'll likely have to work at whether you're "in the wrong" or not.

Kinda depressing, eh?

Unfortunately, sometimes negativity is contagious - sharing something negative with someone is likely to worsen their mood. I won't conjecture why that is - I can only really say that whenever people dump long lists of everything wrong with the world on me, I rarely feel great about it afterwards. Negativity is often warranted, usually realistic, sometimes funny in specific ways etc., but mostly it is still just negativity.

Try and be mindful about this: what are you communicating? Is the content or tone negative? Did you get onto a negative track from something more positive? It is not easy, but you could unironically put up a visible reminder. Don't overdo the self-censoring either, though, that's also not healthy.

Also, are you taking up a lot of space in the conversation relative to others? This can add some friction too if the disparity is big enough. I have been both the loud person (usually from boredom) and the person getting annoyed at someone individually being like 50% of a chat. One man's dead chat is a reasonable level of activity for another, after all.

(All the above is personal experience - reasonably sure the buzzkill stuff is an actual thing but I wasn't able to find a citation or anything.)

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't see it either, but I'm sure the .ml gentleperson is only too psyched to explain.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

If you have a perfectly normal (non-pathological) lack of confidence then pretending to be confident may allegedly help you. A cynic could remark that that requires knowing what that looks like and being able to pull it off, while almost nobody offering that particular "advice" seems to feel a huge need to elaborate on it.

It's a cliché.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

It's not all that far removed from shit people say completely without a trace of irony.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago

See, this is exactly what people mean by disregarding any criticism.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

disregarded any criticism

Some people still do this. It is still pretty damn funny.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Horse Armor 2.0

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

That's fair. Sounds like a very reasonable way to explain it to the kids' parents, too, if you get the occasion.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Maybe they could start using an engine that is more recent than the Cretaceous.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Pro tip: whenever someone asks you if you have a source and you say either "common sense" or "go find out", you have just said "no I don't."

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

The videos being paid is not YT's choice, the channel owner must've set that specifically on those ranks for those videos.

Being visible despite being unavailable, seen 4149743 times before, plain crap, obvious junk with 45 views on a 2 sub channel, already specifically hidden, already specifically blocked, etc. etc etc etc etc... those are definitely Youtube though.

BlockTube may have a feature for this, it addresses some of those other cases. Or you could potentially hack together a uBlock rule for it ("any video on the front page that has this stupid price tag thing")

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