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[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

It’s okay. I appreciate your sympathy. It’s just hard like the skill barrier has gotten higher like with companies I’ve interviewed with in the past i could get away with easier leetcode problems and my personality skills however now its just they’re asking harder leetcode questions and more direct detailed answers on what I’ve specifically worked. Like they’ll test me on frameworks or ask me some very archaic questions which is just so frustrating to get through like I haven’t had that much experience that they’re demanding from me even in entry level positions it’s been like that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Thank you so much for your detailed response. I really appreciate it. I’ve been networking with some people and trying to do something different. I’ve been using Claude for including keywords and what you’ve said. It’s very good advice overall you’ve given me. I was wondering about the interview stage like I’ve been struggling to get through the initial recruiter screen too. From the feedback I’ve gotten it’s that I do well in interviewing but never going forward with it. Like it’s so hard to tell what did I do wrong. Do you know if there is anyway to really sell yourself during this initial screen? Also if you have time, I’m more than happy to share my resume as well while keeping it anonymous on here. Let me know if you can give me feedback around that! Thanks

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

Thanks I appreciate your comment. I’ve applied to them. I’m hoping to hear from them. Have you applied to them and if so interviewed with them?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Hey man, thank you so much for your comment. I’ve been really thinking about doing those exams. It’s just I’m really worried about the internships cause they’re reserved for college level students mostly? Do you think it’s a good idea to go back and do master’s for a better chance at internships for actuary?

 

Hi y'all! I hope you guys are doing well. So basically I am going through a lot right now. I just need some advice. The thing I am going through is the following and yes I copy pasted from reddit cause the advice there wasn't the best I'd say. I was hoping if you guys could help. Thanks in advance!

I’m feeling really stuck and could use some guidance. I have a CS degree and worked for 1.5 years at a major financial firm building data pipelines, working with financial datasets, and using technologies like Python, SQL, and AWS. I was put on a PIP earlier this year and eventually let go, so I started applying for jobs during that time and have now been unemployed for a few months. I’ve sent out 400+ applications with minimal callbacks, tailoring my resume to each and every job. The tech market is absolutely brutal right now with mass layoffs and companies choosing overseas teams over domestic engineers.

I’m at the point where I don’t even know what direction to go anymore. I’ve been considering pivoting to becoming an actuary since my background with financial data analysis seems relevant, and I’ve read that programming skills are increasingly valued in that field. The work seems like it would fit my analytical mindset and the career appears more stable than tech. However, when I looked into it more, I found conflicting information about how competitive the entry-level market actually is, and I’m not sure if I’d just be trading one oversaturated field for another.

I’ve also tried applying to healthcare IT roles and local banks and credit unions thinking they’d be less competitive than major tech companies, but even those seem incredibly hard to break into right now. I’m getting rejected from positions that should be a good fit for my background, which is making me question if there’s something fundamentally wrong with my approach or if every industry is just this broken.

The financial stress is getting to me, and I’m doing some gig work to survive, but I can’t keep this up much longer. I even considered joining the military, but I’ve been on antidepressants and would need to wait at least a year to be eligible.

Has anyone else made a successful pivot from software engineering to another field? Should I stick with trying to leverage my existing technical skills in adjacent industries, or is it worth investing time and money into studying for actuarial exams? I’m really struggling to figure out what my next move should be and would appreciate any advice or perspectives from people who’ve been in similar situations. Should I just grind hard on leetcode at this point for SWE jobs with how terrible the job market has been?

I’m honestly just feeling defeated and don’t know what path forward makes sense anymore. Any guidance would be really helpful

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Lmao that’s just my existence in general 😭

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

C’mere you 🩷

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Hey thanks for saying that. I was thinking of maybe joining a therapeutic riding volunteering place cause I noticed that there tends to be a lot more girls there and I might be wrong could be a wrong assumption but hey at least I’ll be able to ride on a horse on to the sunset lol.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Well one thing is that with friends they can come and go a lot more often than romantic relationships. The other thing when it comes to romantic relationships is where you feel a connection which is special and it’s not like spark but more so a level of comfort. A more important aspect that differentiates between friendships and romantic relationships is the vulnerability it offers for men like me but hear me out it’s that men cannot feel the same vulnerability with friends even if you’re the closest heart-to-heart level I’m talking but with relationships it’s just you don’t feel the need to hide things. Sex is the obvious difference lol but that’s like the last thing I’m interested in cause that’s like when we’re the most vulnerable. I mean this is the best I could come up with what makes friendships and romantic relationships separate.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I guess my type of woman (well looks like wise white American) is someone who’s just kind and caring also who’s more extroverted tbh. I mean I do like someone who takes care of themselves (I’m trying to do that just ya know struggling but not like I gave up on it) and someone who wants a long term relationship that will lead to marriage.

Basically my type is someone who shares the same western ideals as I do (I grew up Muslim but not anymore and I’m brown as well) and someone who’s liberal I guess if that helps.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Quite a lot actually, its just that friendships are not really an issue for me but more so like romance I guess. I feel like I can't for the life me flirt or anything that'll convey that I am romantically interested without scarring them off or just get friend zoned (friend zoned is not a bad thing for me I am more than happy to have more friends in life). Its just you know it feels like you're in stuck under a glass ceiling that you can just can't break is what I feel about dating in general.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

If that's the case then that makes sense. Its just that if I stop going out there, I said in my other comment that no one will come to be or I'm just you know alone but not in a good way. There is nothing wrong with being alone but for me its that my family is really forcing me to get married to someone they like and things I value are very different from what the girl my family wants me to marry. I know its fucked up but here we are.

 

Hi my fellow Lemmy users! It’s been a while since I used this platform and boy did I actually miss you all ❤️

It’s just that I’ve been more so focusing on myself in my career and in my own education. So I graduated back in June and man it sure does feel like a lifetime ago already. Settled in a good paying job and still trying to improve myself wherever I can.

This brings us to the question that I wanted to ask everyone here. As I’ve been very focused on academics and career stuff I never had the opportunity to date and I’ve been rejected very frequently (which is to be expected as a man tbh). I haven’t been able to lose weight and that I’m 25 years old.

I know that’s still pretty young but I still feel so behind on dating tbh. Is it still too late for me to find someone I want to be with after I’ve lost weight? Does losing weight help for men as it does for women? I’ve been trying to join meetups, volunteering (just to meet new people tbh) and really put myself out there. It’s just idk like all my friends are committed and I’m just floating around life whilst focusing on my career.

 

 

Hey guys! I was wondering if Mastodon is down or something cause I’ve been trying to login and see all the content there but apparently it’s either really slow or it’s just straight not even working. I did check my internet but it’s working for me on all other websites. Just wanted to make sure!

 

Now that is a substantial amount of users on here now (from a particular source that looks awfully like Lemmy but is very corporate ewww). What are some tips and tricks for using lemmy or the fediverse in general to help those new users to get accustomed to this platform?

 

I'm trying to learning machine learning from a more mathematical/theory side of machine learning just so its easier for me to understand AI/ML papers that are coming out just to keep up with them. I would say that I have a basic understanding of AI/ML but more so on the applied side like in Keras, TF, PyTorch somewhat but I feel like I am lacking on my understanding on the mathematical side of AI/ML. So any books and course recs for that?

 

Well now we have Reddit alternative (lemmy, kbin, etc) and a Twitter alternative (Mastodon). I just came across an idea of a dating app/making friends fediverse but idk how would that work but looking at how dating apps are these days which are a total shit show, I am kinda curious to hear everyone's thoughts on that idea.

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