I think that "mental illness" kind of comments would come from people whose attitude for safety in many aspects of life is "that's never going to happen (to me)". Those people exist, so sooner or later you'll see comments like that.
On the other hand everybody is trying to find a balance in convenience and safety and the situations and environments and life on general for one person can be quite different from that of some others'. So what's adequate for one won't be for another.
It's like PPE or personal finance or many other things. There's no one size that fits all and finding the right fit isn't easy. For a lot of us it's work in progress. Sometimes you know what's definitely needed and tweak the details. Sometimes you know something is not going well and needs to change.
Maybe it's enough to say that it's complicated and have some compassion and support for people that think it isn't. Or people that think it's all too much to handle.
So, use an apt frontend that does that. I prefer to use apt search and apt show to find packages and then follow links if I want to read more. I was happy when I could remove aptitude, synaptic, deselect and whatever and just install what I wanted and only what I wanted instead. Also debfoster.
Also, https://packages.debian.org/