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Honestly so lucky that they had all those laser hair removal sessions a year before the world ended 🤭

Maybe 4... and by understand, I mean they have experienced my highs when I have something in my life to temporarily hyperfixate over that brings me so much joy - but also my incredible lows during burnout periods. They've been caught in my emotional storms and have continued to be there when I eventually even out (sometimes many months later). They understand I can be highly emotional and prone to crumbling under sadness and stress.

The other people in my life know I'm on the spectrum, but I don't think they necessarily get it.

I would say the biggest difference I notice is communication. I tend to need full honesty and full commitment. I'm super incompatible with people who think small lies are better than uncomfortable and honest conversations or who make plans and don't follow through with them.

Most likely trauma and previous friendships eroding. I'm on the spectrum and know that the world I experience is very different from most people. How I communicate, express myself, and just feel overall tends to come off as exaggerated... but for me, it's what feels normal and is fully authentic. I reach out, communicate that I'm hurting, and could use support, but it's almost always "I'll try to make time." I always ask to spend time doing things we do regularly - playing games online, chatting, shopping etc... but the moment I'm asking for that time to help me through something, it's just not there anymore. I've lost a few friendships that I really valued when I was struggling like this - it's hard to not feel like it's a 'me' problem.

Friendship...I so struggle balancing my feelings of loneliness and desire for companionship. I look to my friends for support, but don't want to be a burden or overwhelm them. I constantly think about how I can be the best friend I can for them and how I can support them while also being present for myself. I always end up neglecting my feelings, burning out, and sometimes even losing a friend as I crumble under my emotions. People are so hard sometimes 😢

I wish I had a good answer... most of my life, I was raised by a single parent. I love my mom, but she's no doubt also on the spectrum, and she was incredibly overprotective and wasn't the best at managing her emotions. After I turned 18 and started community college, I really pushed for my independence. She didn't do too well with this and was constantly telling me I wasn't allowed to leave without her permission and set an arbitrary curfew for me. I pushed back, she got super upset, changed the locks on me one day, and I was forced to live in my car (until I totalled it), friends' floors, and eventually a small shelter specifically for people struggling with mental health issues. I really hated that shelter since it was rigid and I had no privacy... I learned independence to survive. I'm in my 30s, living in my own, and I feel I'll always be playing catch up. I wasn't taught how to handle different life obstacles well or how to navigate my intense emotions, especially when it came to friendships, relationships, and work-life.

We're semi-fortunate to have the internet and access to large amounts of information. I leverage it constantly to help me figure out and understand how to solve problems in my life. Obviously, research is important and not acting impulsively (not the easiest). For your question, I think figuring out what specific things you'd like to plan or research would be helpful!

I moved to Affinity early this year, and it has been amazing!! I was expecting a long adjustment period after decades with Photoshop, but it's so similar that I picked it up super quick!

Ahhh sooo cute!! I love how you decorated those spaces! And honestly yes 🤭 pastel pink and florals in every room. If it's not pink (has to be the right shade too), I don't buy it! Well, I also love a pastel purple, so I mix that in too 💜 I feel like embracing my aesthetic has also made shopping easier; I'm limited on options and don't get so overwhelmed having to consider every color out there.

Pink, delicate, frilly

Himekaji and Ryousangata girl with plenty of Liz Lisa, Vina of the Valley, and DearMyLove. I just looove bows, lace, and super cute clothes!! 🩷🎀

Yes yes! Thank you! When I was looking into Fidelity's target funds I found ones labeled as mutual funds that sound super similar to what you described. I looked through the different industries and put some money towards those! I also just read into the difference between the two and will definitely be researching some ETF to invest into.

So true.. I'm super shy and introverted. My extroverted friends who essentially adopted me are the brightest parts of my life. They've allowed me to experience things I never would have and are incredibly patient and understanding when I need me time.

Omg thank you sooo much!! This is exactly the simple and straightforward investment I needed! I also found a few other funds/growth symbols that seemed easy to understand. I'd eventually like to educate myself more on this whole topic, but right now simple is all my brain can handle 🤭

Kind of a similar-ish question. I recently moved my 401k from an old employer to my personal account. All my money is now sitting uninvested. As much as I'd love to hire someone to look over my accounts, I can't really justify that at the moment. In the most basic way possible, can anyone suggest specific indexes, stocks, whatever the terminology is that I should or could invest my money into?